Moving On From The Past

Metalaggeddon · 2015-04-13T18:30:46+00:00

Mantra thanks to dear old dad and granddad.

'Those who live in the past are ghosts. Those who live in the future are dreamers. Those who act in the present, plan for the future, and keep the past in it's place are leaders.'

Maybe that helps. I think on it every day.

Poldonis · 2015-04-13T18:40:35+00:00

Abundance mentality with everything. Didn't get that job, there is always the next one. girl gave you the cold shoulder? Her loss. Didn't hit your PR today, good thing you get to try again in a month.

Just don't use it as complaciancy. There will always be more or different opportunities which is why we keep striving, but those are also at a later date. Time value of money, take that concept, time value of time

babydocnorman · 2015-04-13T19:01:29+00:00

Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team his freshman year. He used that memory of past failure to motivate himself to work his ass off and play every game like it was his last. He never wanted to experience the bitter taste of failure again and it drove him to greatness.

Before I learned the hard truths of the SMP and became RP, I experienced the pain of being cheated on and friendzoned. Whenever I'm tempted to slack off and revert back, I reflect on how I felt when I was a beta chump and say to myself "never again."

Reflect on how great you feel now and how bad you may have felt before you became RP and say "never again" when you need an extra push.

rizzla453 · 2015-04-13T19:32:27+00:00

I'm suffering the anger phase now - took RP about a month or so ago, now approaching whenever and whereever I see a cute girl, been on a couple of dates, lifting etc..

But I keep going through bouts of depression/anger at the AF/BB reality and how many opportunities I missed out on when I was younger.

Anyone have any reading material that can help me out with this?

Jack_Wellington · 2015-04-13T19:40:02+00:00

Pain is the price of admission to the Red Pill.

Once you are free from your ghosts (ex GF) you rise like a phoenix above blue pill men, especially as you get older and avoid losing large sums of $$ to the divorce/child support scam.

_the_shape_ · 2015-04-14T11:35:24+00:00

Keep improving, but realize too that that reflex, that 'muscle', if you will, to continue looking back is something that must be overcome. Whether or not you are into Rob Zombie or like what he puts out, I'll use something he said in an interview I saw a few months back to demonstrate the proper mindset you're seeking. In it, he was asked, as usual, about his time with White Zombie as the lead singer, and his response was something to the effect of never giving the past the time of the day, always looking forward to the next project, never being one of these types that continuously talks about "the winning touchdown" back when he was in High School and reflecting on the "glory days" from way back when. He's simply too preoccupied with whatever he's working on to stop and become one of these broken record types that continues on and on about when they were actually fit, when they were actually good looking, when they were actually getting sex etc.

I don't really think there's any 'secret' or special path to take to get to this level. Simply keep accomplishing and focusing your direction on what can happen and what can be if you continue to strive in this direction. It probably helps too to bear in mind that a majority of people are of the variety that looks back wistfully at a past they assume will never be topped, keeping their head down, toiling away in shit jobs, hoping to reach Friday as soon as possible in order to drink their weekends away, only to repeat the process once more on Monday.

thewrightstuff88 · 2015-04-14T16:48:10+00:00

I've found that saying one thing and doing another has been difficult. It helps if in a difficult situation that you talk to someone going through something similar because they could provide you with a new perspective that can really change the way you think.

I recently broke up with my ex of 6.5 years and although I was keeping busy, I had bouts of serious depression. My uncle introduced me to a friend who just got out of an engagement (the guys fault, not hers) and we talked about our individual situations and have feedback to one another and she provided me with some great advice and new found sense on the situation and I felt much better since.

Title	Moving On From The Past
Author	Ditario
Upvotes	16
Comments	11
Date	April 13, 2015 6:14 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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