My Seduction Journey #20

SkorchZang · 2017-06-11T01:22:29+00:00

When girls tell me straight up they are not interested I have more respect for them.

You're a man. You're not meant to have any "respect" for girls. You might like them, love them, even adore them, but respect? That's laughably out of the question, it's a girl.

It's a girl, that's why she's dicking you around like this, with the silent treatment. It's a girl, that's why her instincts are finely honed to test your emotional mettle by giving you a lot of unnecessary shit to deal with. It's a girl, shit tests galore.

With experience, you kinda ease into it. You let her be who she needs to be, do what she needs to do. You're going to be fine, either way. Silent treatment? Nothing but a little smirk from you, you understand exactly what's up. She wants you down, she wants you feeling vulnerable and powerless. Ideally she wants a message of complete capitulation coming from you, something like "hi, did you forget about me? we had those plans...". Ooh that would be so delicious, for her ego right now. Absolute pussy power.

On the other hand, if you send nothing and show no sign of any distress, that is worrying. That will make HER squirm and try to prove herself, because now she's the one feeling powerless and down. To wit, she tested you and you don't even care, how is this even possible? Who is this guy? Did he not even like meee? Did he forget about me and find some other whore for Saturday? Etc. etc.

Cheer up bro, everything's going according to plan as usual!

TIP: Avoid ever setting up future dates while you're on one. You just experienced the reasons why. It works better if you let girls wonder "when and if". When is he gonna reach out for a second date? Is he going to??? They love to wonder things like this and feel elated/depressed about it on a cycle, since it's uncertain.

sillysally09 · 2017-06-11T01:36:48+00:00

Sorry about the flake dude. It happens to everyone. My takeaway for next time would be to not set up date #2 right after the first date. Hit her up a week or so later. You need to give her time to think about how she feels about you and date #1. Her uncertainty about how you feel about her will cause her to think about that even more. You didn't leave any room for uncertainty.

JvSOUL · 2017-06-11T04:43:16+00:00

I had a similar day today, GODDAM all the Titty meat walking around today. I'm Still trying to work on my Physique and Money, so only a did a couple of approaches today. I usually try to get some practice in at some of the girls I work with, I always keep my options open. But not much success, which means I gotta double down on my Style and decide on what energy I NEED to radiate so that My happiness doesn't get affected.

You should've Just left Right when that Chick said she wants to be freinds. You shouldn't have stayed at that coffee shop, DON'T ACT LIKE THEY ARE DOING YOU A FUCKING FAVOR by going on these Lil dates.

Here's what I've noticed so far in my journey.... Girls are VERY EMOTIONALLY intelligent. All they need to do is READ YOUR ENERGY and they know within seconds I'd they are gonna Fuck you/interested in you. ANY DROP of desperation, or sadness, bitterness, etc they WILL feel it. Idk how, Idk why, but they Just Fucking do. you need to be be at that level where you mastered your Amusement, Your confidence has to be 100% retardley confident because they feed off of that. YOUR STYLE, Whether it's the nice guy approach, the bad boy apporach, the mysterious approach, etc, You have to OWN THAT SHIT. It has to be RIGHTEOUS and CONFIDENT and passionate when your APROACHING. almost like you know your gonna fuck that girl no matter what she throws at you because you have 100 More levels than her Bullshit.

You need to make a decision on what Guy you NEED to be. It has to be CONSISTENT BOTH EXTERNALLY AND INTERNALLY. So when it's time to Eat, you know What you need to do to Eat. YOU CAN'T DOUBT YOURSELF Whether it's being aggressive, mysterious, etc. It Cannot be a tactic, they can smell That. it has to be 100% you (RIGHTEOUS).

CaptainSupream · 2017-06-11T05:39:27+00:00

Hey man I've been getting the same things lately in my cold approach. I'm getting numbers following what I think are good interactions but am getting ghosted on almost all. It's mentally taxing. I was thinking today that these mental scars that form from being taxed like this is actually what will build my dgaf attitude even more, eventually it won't be taxing.

Don't listen to the guys that keep saying don't cold approach or there is better options. Those are guys that didn't get good at cold approach and gave up. Fact is most men don't cold approach because it's hard, and requires time to get good at aka no instant gratification.

I've been reflecting heavy on each interaction and have found that my intention isn't clear in any of them. They are literally just good convos with connection that's all. Maybe that's what's happening to you. Are you showing any intent in your approaches?

MRPFuckMe1 · 2017-06-11T11:53:05+00:00

I got five numbers within the last month, two never responded, three I set up dates with and none of them showed up.

One or two, you can chalk it up to, you know, whatever: they're flaky, their ex came to town, they had a shitty day at work, I don't know. But five? The only conclusion I can come to is that I'm not attractive enough.

So, fine. I'll hit the gym harder and just keep on truckin'. What else am I gonna do, give up?

Here's the cool part though. Twice when I got flaked on, I turned it into an awesome night anyway. I was already out so I'd just go randomly talk to new people, make some friends, get another number. A good opener (with guys, not girls) is to tell them you got ghosted. They'll understand and take you in as one of their own. Then you're meeting their girlfriends and sisters and stuff.

On another topic, good on you for playing the game and taking record of it. They say you can't improve what you don't measure. You'll get better at this. Keep it up.

Sumsar01 · 2017-06-11T14:58:28+00:00

Take a week to deload and do some nofab. First Will help with the plateau second Will help with the girls i bet.

THE_StrongBoy · Sun Jun 11 1:55:50 2017 UTC

You just gotta grind those cold approaches. Dont spend too much time in the gym, maybe 2 hours per week, and just cold approach all day.

Dont worry about buiding a frame or mental strength, that all comes with the cold approaches.

Did I mention cold approaches?

You arent really on track to become alpha unless you hit a minimum of like 18 hours per week of cold approaches.

bomerr · 2017-06-11T03:38:41+00:00

I know that here in TRP that you're not supposed to let the girl dictate your emotions.

That is that theory that sounds good on paper but doesn't match reality. Fact is you took time and effort to setup a date which means you are now invested into the interaction.

If she flakes then you have 2 options. 1) Accept reality. Accept the pain. 2) Be delusional. Cling to the theory and block out reality.

When girls tell me straight up they are not interested I have more respect for them. A simple text doesn't take too long.

Your values are not universal. Some people believe it's honest to be straight forward and direct while other people believe it's polite to not hurt your feelings with a rejection. Part of dating is realizing you prefer one type of women over the other. Other men would prefer the opposite.

I approached as always, tried this new mindset out of trying to build a connection.

But the question is does she want to build a connection with you?

I got her number but for some reason I got this gut feeling the second I got her number it was a fake. Turned out it was.

This is the "skill" you are searching to get. The "pros" increase their % by self-selecting women that are more into them.

I stopped approaching after that. There were tons of gorgeous women today here in NYC on this nice day, I saw them as a waste of time. What's the point anymore? I feel burnt out but I know I'm in a plateau.

If approach women in random spots during the day was the best strategy to getting a girlfriend or getting laid then every man would already be doing it. You are realizing the reason why most people do not do this.

A girl I met last week joined me for a cup of coffee today. She told me she wasn't interested in me romantically but wanted to be friends, I accepted her offer and asked her to join me. We chatted, that's it, no kino or nothing. I wanted to get my mind off everything today but couldn't stop thinking that I'm wasting my time talking to this girl.

Do you have a lot of female friends? Is your social circle larger enough? Do you enjoy talking to her? If the answer is yes to any of these questions then that is your reason. Remember people get laid through social circle much more than cold approach.

Title	My Seduction Journey #20
Author	Salted_Pretzel
Upvotes	5
Comments	8
Date	June 10, 2017 11:09 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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