Any "Red Pill" man who says that his N-count isn't important obviously has a low N-count himself. A man saying that N-count doesn't matter is like an entrepreneur saying that net worth doesn't matter. It just reeks of sour grapes.
Sure, there are a thousand other important things too, like frame and SMV and internalizing an alpha mindset, but N-count is the manifestation and PROOF that you've achieved those things. Honestly, I'd never take dating advice from anyone with a lower N-count than me.
In the same vein, it also bothers me that "outcome independence" is lauded as a good thing here. It's called RATIONALIZATION. "Oh, I went out, I didn't give a fuck, I didn't get laid but it's okay. I had fun, and that's the most important thing. I'm outcome-independent!"
It's clearly a loser's mentality. You went out, YOU FAILED TO GET LAID, and now you're trying to explain away your failure by justifying and rationalizing that you at least have fun. Where's the anger? You should be LIVID and DISSATISFIED and diagnose where you went wrong. How can you succeed at anything if you don't keep score!? You're being too easy on yourself. You won't get laid with that weak attitude.
I recently discovered something that got me laid so much more than before -- over this summer, I added MORE THAN THIRTY to my N-Count just from June to September. You know what I did?
I wrote down the names and the numerical count of the girls I've fucked. Just seeing the list growing so painfully slowly actually got me swiping harder and more diligently on Tinder, AND hitting up chicks in real life.
The result? I banged 2-3 NEW GIRLS every, single, week, with no dry spell whatsoever. I was focused. I didn't have "plates;" why bother if they don't increase my N-count? I only had hookups. I had my eye on a singular goal, and I GREW THE MOST IN THIS SHORT PERIOD OF TIME. There's no way to internalize an alpha mindset EXCEPT TO ACTUALLY FUCK AS MANY GIRLS AS POSSIBLE.
And nothing makes you feel more unstoppable when hitting on the next girl than a HUGE arsenal of HOT girls you've already banged. You can say whatever you want, reading, lifting, big salary, good job, nice car. Having a high N-count is the BEST source of confidence. It sounds circular, but it's true.
In short, N-Count is VERY important. It's the most reliable indicator of your SMV. Not chicks telling you you're cute on Instagram. Not your abs popping out in your bathroom mirror. Not your fat bank account balance. YOUR N-COUNT is women putting their money where their mouths are.
PS I'm talking about organic N-count (i.e. pickups, online dating, relationships, swinging, etc.). If you count prostitutes you've paid off to pretend to like fucking you, take a step back and seriously reevaluate your meaningless life. You should be ashamed of yourself. You should view your "prostitute N-count" like a woman should view her N-count -- with shame, especially as it gets higher.
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