Thought that some of the newer red pillers would appreciate this example of a nuanced compliance test.

After a date with this woman I recently started seeing, we're back to my place where we're chatting on the couch after sex.

I'm up to pour myself another drink and as I'm getting up she holds her glass out expectantly. I take her glass and ask jokingly:

"Did you want me to do something with this?"

She smiles and nods.

"Well, you're a big girl and you can use your words. Let's try that again."

I hand her back the glass, she gives me a big smile and then asks me "Would you mind putting this down for me please".

"See, I knew you could do it!"

This back and forth came naturally and at first glance may seem silly, if not juvenile. Theoretically, taking her glass and anticipating her need as a guest in my home is harmless, right?

Maybe.

Or maybe it's an opportunity to be congruent, throw a fun jab and hold frame.