question about re-recreating your image

IanIronwood · 2014-11-07T14:07:35+00:00

My advice? Instead of trying to be "more social", go for "more socially dominant". Start dressing better, and formalize - not casualize - your interactions at work. Convert your "shyness" into quiet confidence by learning subtextual communication that improves your presentation.

Start with "How To Win Friends And Influence People" for the basics, then investigate the Manosphere's wisdom on projecting social dominance. You'll end up getting what you want. Or a better job. Win/win.

CloakedOrchid · 2014-11-07T05:02:32+00:00

A sudden character overhaul would be a real shock, and would probably not be well received.

With that in mind, start slow and pick up speed as you see fit. Take more opportunities to be social, volunteer for something if you have the chance (either at work if it allows you to be more social, or with regard to an after-work social outing).

Misteralcala · 2014-11-07T05:14:09+00:00

You don't want to become the guy that has to say something to fill every silence. Think of John Wayne. He was the kind of guy who could pull off the 'man of few words' vibe, and it all boils down to confidence and body language.

Stand up straight, look others in the eye and participate in conversations as needed. If you avoid conversation, have poor eye contact and body language, shrink in on yourself when around others and don't assert yourself when speaking, then yea, people will think you're a shy pussy. Don't come off as a shy pussy.

wantonton · 2014-11-07T14:22:31+00:00

Something that helps me is to view introversion as another form of selfishness (and in this context selfishness is bad). What often makes awkward in social situations are two thoughts: 1) what are they going to think about ME, and 2) I don't like these people/their discussion subject matter.

View social interaction as an opportunity to give validation from a position of confidence (fake it till you make it). Let me be clear about this: I do not mean be a beta yes man. Think of this as a necessary skill to learn to be a true alpha. You are getting others to like you regardless of what you think about them. No need to be yourself, just be winning.

On how to do that study How to Win Friends and Influence People. The short of it is, with a few skills you make people convinced you really like them, then they will readily fall into your frame and you've got the show.

Title	question about re-recreating your image
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Date	November 7, 2014 3:28 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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