I am writing this to let people know you don’t have to act like an asshole to be alpha but more importantly to know why it works. If it works out, it is probably because unintentionally they’ve changed these little things that make a big difference in how you’re perceived.

Lead & break-rapport

In my opinion to be dominant you need to lead the interaction and break rapport. Most people here know how to lead and i am sure it is covered enough on this sub. You’re leading already but to effectively communicate your dominance you need to speak in rapport breaking tonality.

Most people speak in a tonality that goes up at the end of the sentence, sometimes it goes up in the beginning too, worst case scenario it goes up the whole sentence. That is called rapport-seeking tonality, when you talk this way it makes you seem needy, like you want something from the other person, this in return makes you lower status because dominant/masculine man don’t seek approval and don’t need shit from anyone.

The right way

When you talk with a rapport-breaking tonality your voice sounds deeper and it trails off with a downwards tonality, this communicates that you don’t care about being friends, building rapport with them or wanting something from them at all. To do this first of all be calm, relaxed and in control of the situation. showing strong emotional control (frame) then try to speak slower, this enables you to speak with an deeper voice, notice the people who speak fast they also have a high pitched voice.

This is not easy, most people miscalculate the tone that their speaking in, especially when they are talking to girls, or anyone else they deem high status. I recommend you practise this, first find out what tonality you speak in by recording yourself, then adjust to breaking-rapport tonality and lastly, practise and record yourself in conversations with people you consider higher status.

Other ways to break rapport

When you have your tonality in control you can also start breaking rapport by interrupting the other person in the middle of a sentence, with the right tone and volume this is powerful and makes the other person feeling submissive,whether it is in business or if you try to attract girls (push-pull) it is a good tool to have.

Conclusion

Control your voice and tonality to shift into a dominant frame and to be perceived more masculine, combine this with strong body language and direct unwavering eye contact.

Also, Lift.