Sometimes it’s easiest to understand concepts by looking inward. After all, you’re just a person like anyone else- with the same instincts and programming.
All humans- men or women- initially judge on appearance. It happens so quickly that it’s mostly subconscious. You see a ridiculous looking fat guy and you reduce him to a quick definition; understanding people this way helps you safely navigate the world. You are usually correct.
But what about when that same fat guy is suddenly socially charming, funny but not fat guy funny, confident and charismatic? Your wiring gets a little screwed with and you change your definition. You’re not going to shit test this guy because you’re not considering letting him stick his sweaty fat guy dick in you… if you were, maybe you’d reconsider that.
“Just being yourself” for women is a man behaving like he physically appears. Only a clearly sexy man should behave in a sexually aggressive way. A clearly unattractive man (bottom 80%) should be supplicating to women- they should stay in line and know their place as non-sexual entities who exist to benefit women. This is the division between the hot stud Alpha male and the whimpering beta.
When I was on a date with a girl who told me touching her thigh was an “unwanted sexual advance” and in the same breath told me that this kind of thing was “okay coming from someone else” (…and a little later explaining how men should be masculine and “unafraid of making the first move”; hooray for unabashed cognitive dissonance), what she was really saying was: “I perceive you as a beta and demand you behave as a beta.”
Game is behaving as though you are of a higher Sexual Market Value than you appear. This is done as to make the girl you are attempting to Game question her initial judgment of you as a needy, wimpy, pussy beta. The bigger the discrepancy between how you physically appear and how you behave will cause a girl who may be interested to “shit test” you.
Shit tests are often called “congruency tests” because the girl is trying to see if the way you are acting is authentic; congruency means that it isn’t an act, that it is the “authentic you.” Authenticity is extremely important to a woman; this is because she understands that her most alluring features are a facade of make-up, and camera angles. She understands lying as a fundamental part of female sexual strategy, so she will assume you are lying as much as she is if your behavior doesn’t match what you look like.
I went to high school with a guy named Joey Baloney. Joey was a fat doofy looking kid who had tragically awful proto-Game. That is to say, he tried his hardest to act like a very cool, hyper-masculine guy in a horrifyingly unconvincing manner. When the kid would cross my path, of course as a total teenage asshole, I would shatter his frame and send him packing. Important to note that Joey Baloney ended up getting with a fairly decent girl.
Lesson: Bad Game is better than no Game.
The rest of this series is archived on my Game blog: www.thrilltoparty.com
EDIT: Quick question, my game posts are always fairly highly upvoted on the red pill but down voted into the ground on the "seduction" subreddit, does anyone have any idea why ?
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