I got divorced 1.5 years ago, it was the greatest decision of my life. However, a little over 6 months later (about a year ago) I started seeing, and then dating exclusively, a solid 7-soft 8. The only reason I decided to get into an exclusive deal with her is that, if she had slightly larger tits and was 4 years younger, she would be a hard 9 - 10. That's it, she's hot.

Well it turns out that she's also pretty smart, financially independent, capable of being very rational, and has reacted well to me implementing/swallowing TRP. By the last point I mean that when we had our first actual fight (not a shit test) I managed to hold frame and remain calm (easy for me since my parents shoved Marcus Aurelius into my hands when I was 12). The result of being honest with her was me explaining that if she wants me to constantly be at my best and (basically) working my game on her all the time, then she needs to do the same: If she's not showing me that I'm who she wants to spend her time with, then I'll find someone who wants to be with me more than her. We also had some great chats about Men's Rights and gender-based discrimination where she relented her self-avowed feminist views and has lost all traces of that really unattractive part of herself. BUT, I do have some concerns that are causing me to get anxious and confused as to my next move. That's why I want to ask for general advice and feedback.

Possible next moves: 1) Do nothing, keep seeing her, make it clear I'm not interested in marriage and that I am just seeing her because I like spending time with her and fucking. She will obviously get more nervous about the status of our relationship, and I'd really hate to see the hamster take over such a fine woman - it may kill my image of her. 2) Next her - tell her that she's been a great person to spend time with, but that I'm not going to give her the LTR that she wants (/that I want to start banging younger women again) and so it's just not going to work out by COB.

Concerns: 1) She has hit the wall. She is 31 going on 32, I knew her during her last LTR and the guy was talking constantly about how he was going to marry her - up until he told her that he was just kidding but that he thinks he can fuck her friends. Lol. She was not having it and left him at the drop of his hat. I like to tell myself that she was just with him because she thought that she could get a marriage out of him - he's got high social status as a former Marine Officer currently working as a civilian for the federal government, but he's got otherwise super-low SMV (short, feminine, talkative, argumentative...). However, I can get myself to acknowledge that she has hit this wall and that she's totes looking for marriage security since her looks are starting to fade... sigh. For context, I'm nearly 27 and in the best shape I've been in since high school, she was a hard 8 when I first met her 3 years ago, now a soft 8.

2) My marriage was to a woman 10 years older than me, my current GF is 5 years older than me, in between I did not get with enough young poon to satisfy my thirst. I still fantasize, and probably always will, about getting with more 18-25s. I do well in my approaches with that demographic, but the fact that I'm in an LTR and my unwillingness to put in work to get that next lay (diminishing returns, Marginal Cost of Poon, etc) are keeping me from seeing them as a viable target group. I'm not convinced I could score often enough with the girls my age and younger to give up my guaranteed cougar poon.

3) Her past. She's hot, she was an actor, she lived in NYC for 6 years. I can only imagine how many guys she's fucked. It makes me gag a bit when I think about it. She doesn't play games with me, but she is very careful to avoid talking about this part of her past. What clues I have are not good. Explicit Question: Please explain how important you guys think this is to assessing on woman? WHY is this important? I see everyone and every ebook/blog talking about how you want a woman with a low number, but I can't rationalize it and it's fucking with my brain.

Thanks for any feedback, suggestions, comments, or advice you have.