Three Thorough Thoughts in this Post

  1. Seduction boils down to one element and one element only: escalation. The more escalation the better, in fact rapid escalation is the ideal.

  2. You have permission to overescalate. Let me repeat: you have permission to overescalate.

  3. If you don't overescalate, you masturbate.

Escalation/kino at a Bar/Club

  1. Do the twirl: grab a girl's hand and spin them around.

  2. Do the hook: put your arm around them.

  3. Grab their hands and start dancing.

  4. High five.

  5. Hand shake.

Escalation/kino on a date

  1. Go for the hug.

  2. Go for the kiss.

  3. Go for the hand hold.

  4. Squeeze her arms like you are comparing muscle sizes. Then have her squeeze yours.

  5. Kiss her neck, her cheeks, even her hand if you feel like it.

Whatever you are doing with regard to escalation, you're definitely holding back. Especially newbies and younger guys, you'd be amazed and surprised at what you can get away with. If you aren't escalating, you're probably not doing so out of fear. But what are you really afraid of? If you're at a bar or a club, the worst she is going to do is get mad at you and walk away, maybe even slap you or throw her drink at you (never happened nor seen this happen), maybe call you a bad name. But that's it. Your life isn't going to be ruined, if anything you will be all the better because of the experience. And you will never see this woman again in your life.

The pain of regret trumps the pain of a bad experience. Whether your on a date or out on the town, introduce yourself to a woman and be touchy. Overescalate. Hug her. Twirl her around. Dance with her. Pull her in close to you. Women love the thrill of a new experience and love to be led, and by you physically directing them, you are giving them an experience they will remember for at least the rest of the night.

Concluding Conversations

  1. But CaptainCringeworthy, I did everything you said and it was so awkward she swore at me and walked away. This is because in the beginning your brain is facing all these mental hurdles to get over the fact that what you think is impossible is actually possible. You are probably hesitating, and she is sensing this hesitation, and that makes it weird and incongruent. If you meet a woman on the dance floor it is possible to makeout with her. If you're on a date and it is going well that she will accept your kiss. These things take time and they take practice. Another thing you may not be observant of is your stiffness. When you go in for things like the claw, a women can feel your stiffness if you are a stiff individual. In this respect, I recommend doing yoga, relaxing, dancing, and warming yourself up.

  2. Isn't what you're advising kind of rapey? No not at all. What I am advising is that you are not escalating enough given your current circumstances, and that there is so much more you can do and that a woman wants you to do. Escalation is the impetus of the man, yet so many men expect the woman to escalate or give them clear and deliberate signs that they want to be escalated on. This may not happen, it is up to you to take control of your destiny and over escalate in a date or at a club/bar.

  3. I am still stuck in my head. I just cannot get over the fact that I am able to overescalate. You are too caught up with the current circumstances. Meditate. Remind yourself that you will never see this woman again in your life. Practice, and appreciate the fact that overescalation is all about practice. Just go out there and have fun. Stop being objective-oriented.

Mental Madness Exercises

  1. Ask a girl out.

  2. Ask the cashier at the register if you can have a discount (it's harder than you'd expect).

  3. Lie down on a sidewalk for 15 seconds while people walk around you.

All three of these exercises are to prep your brain to realize how constricted we are and that there is so much more that is possible than we have imagined.

tl;dr Go for what you think is impossible with regard to kino and escalation, because it will be possible if you follow through with it.

Disclaimer: Overescalation doesn't mean rape her or harass her in any way. For example, don't be a moron and introduce yourself by grabbing her boob. Rather, overescalation means whatever you think you can follow through with, take it one step further.