Hello, Red Pill! You are all braver men than I. I've been lurking here for about three months, and have been trying to figure out how to apply the lessons here to my life. It is a daunting task.

What is the problem, you may ask? I am married. In some ways, I still love my wife, but I believe our marriage is crumbling, and I'm not sure whether to become a Red Pill husband and try to lead by example or whether to divorce and become my own man.

To be clear, three things have led to this realization within myself:

1) Our sex life is practically non-existent. I have tried to take charge and really take her in a way she'd find attractive, but I guess my personality isn't at a point where I can do that yet.

2) She has proven to be infertile. We have spent quite some time at having children - a must for me - and she has not delivered. To me this is a major let-down. We know it's her because I have a kid from a previous relationship who was adopted out without me meeting it (I was under age, in high school, when this happened, so was the other parent)

3) I've gotten in shape recently and begun wearing nicer clothes, and am realizing I have a whole new world in front of me. Women hit on me everywhere. Now I know the signs. I didn't before! At work, volunteering, at the shooting range, on the fucking bus! they all approach me and ask questions, and they ask about my relationship status and touch their hair... I was really oblivious before.

Anyway, this is getting me eager to prowl, as you can imagine. I'm really not sure what to do, though. I'm 90% sure my wife is faithful; she's quite pretty and attractive, but she hides herself in clothes that are too modest and hates make-up, and she hardly ever goes out with female friends, preferring the company of her married female cousins and some coworkers (she teachers first grade at our town's elementary school). In some ways, I read here and think I hit the jackpot... this girl is truly mine. But I also read here and I think... I don't know... that I'm missing out. And that I should desire pussy, and that that's fine as a man. And that I should want children, if it is important to me.

Apologies if I sound confused, I am very new to the Pill. Please advise!