Maybe you know someone who gives free shit to bums. Maybe you're one of those people who give free shit to bums. Whatever the case is, when someone gives free shit to a bum, the giver (usually) does so to make themselves feel better, not for the sake of the bum.

I'm such a good person, I gave to someone who has less than me!

In this scenario, the bum is selling a lie. You can give me money (someone who is helpless and in need of rescue by a benevolent savior) and in return you can be the hero that saved me. Of course for this service the bum has to make themselves as believable as possible, and if they do anything to violate this contract (of being a helpless victim of society) than the contract is broken, and the giver will end up with buyers remorse.

The same is true for women. They don't want to date/fuck you for your benefit. They are dating/fucking you so that they can get something from you. Just as we don't work at a soul crushing job for the sake of the company or C.E.O. Women aren't dating you to make you happy. They're using you like an alcoholic uses a bottle. You make them feel good so they X for you.

I'm fucking a chad (who is a 10) so I must be a 10 as well

I'm dating someone important so I must be too.

I am collecting the attention of men of status so I must be of high status as well.

These are any number of reasons why a woman could be dating you, but none of them are for your sake. Just as we want to dump our loads into women, they want something from us, and they want to get it for as little effort as possible. So whatever she's buying, keep selling it.

Stop thinking of her as your, "Significant other", and start thinking of her as a customer. Use her reactions to find out what she likes about you, make that aspect of you scarce, and raise the price of it.

For example, my plates are constantly searching for validation:

"Didn't I do a good job with x?" "Aren't I cute today?" "Isn't the dinner I made good?"

Let's remember that she's in the relationship because she wants something from me: Validation. It's my job to sell it to her in exchange for the most I can get out of it. I hope you were taking notes because it's time to

1) Make it scarce: Do this by giving her a totally underwhelming complement.

"Isn't the dinner I made good?"

Yea it was alright .

2) Raise the price:

"Didn't I do a good job with x?"

I guess, weren't you just doing what was expected?

Lastly when she does an outstanding job at something (by working really hard for your validation), you should give her a whole hearted compliment. Don't go overboard. For example one of my plates made an exceptional dinner.

Thanks for cooking, that was really good.

Even with a simple compliment like this, they will usually probe for more validation. They'll ask more questions that are worded for you to compliment them. Most of the time it'll be fairly obvious.

"C'mon I worked really hard, that's all you have to say?"

Remember that in this situation she is searching for YOUR validation. Don't give into her demands.

"I said it was good but all this questioning is making me change my mind."

To most women, validation is the highest form of currency. To refuse this to a women is tantamount to kicking a man in the balls.

So this post went in a couple of directions but let's tie things together for the finish.

1) Women are dating/fucking/whatevering you for a reason. The reason is they want something from you.

2) As long as you hold your end of the deal and give them a good dicking every time you see them you'll likely maintain a healthy customer relationship with her.

3) Don't break frame (think of a bum thanking you for money, "Thanks for the money, now I can buy some booze!").

4) Find out what she's getting out of the relationship, make it scarce and raise the price.

5) If you break the contract you will suffer the consequences. Basically most people now adays are hedonistic as fuck. If you stop making her feel good about herself by being with you, you have broken the contract. If the contract is ever broken it's time to move on and forget that bitch.

Examples of breaking the contract include:

  • Losing Frame and acting like a bitch.
  • Not dicking her down like the slut she is.
  • Not acting like a leader in and outside of the bedroom.
  • Slacking off in your own life.
  • Being a bitch in general.
  • Putting up with her bullshit when she is out of line.

My plates aren't very important in my life, however my plates want to feel important by dating/fucking/serving me. So I let them. It doesn't really matter how I actually feel about them, as long they feel important by dating me, I'll get whatever I want from them.

And always always always remember abundance mentality. These hoes are a dime a dozen. They offer very little and take as much as they can get. Flip the script on them and reap the reward by being a validation drug dealer.

As a quick note, you should have excellent delivery and be humorous while dishing out validation (or with holding it). If she gets mad, make her laugh. She's only a child, she'll forget soon enough anyways.

EDIT: I thought of this example post submission, but a good example of female to male contract is a stripper. She sells the illusion of love/lust/attracting to lonely and desperate men for large amounts of money. As long as she continues to sell the lie, the men will continue to pay. As soon as the illusion is broken, the men develop buyers remorse.