Just wanted to share my experience. I wouldn't necessarily consider myself a Red Piller, I've been applying a lot of what I've been reading here in some way or another my whole life but while rarely having had problems getting numbers and one time dates, it was always hard to move from that to sex. I'm 25, 6 ft 1, mixed race and fit. I'm in the military, 82nd Airborne. I work long hours so pretty much the only time I get out and about is on weekends. I've pretty much been told I was attractive (handsome, hot, etc) my entire life and always catch women looking or showing interest, but spent a long time suffering from a lack of confidence saying what I really felt and therefore had very little success with women.

I'd think 'damn, I want to fuck her'.....but then I'd get her number and do the old 'you're so pretty' or 'let's go on a date and blah blah blah' bullshit like that.

I could never understand why my buddies who were maybe not as conventionally attractive were always getting laid whereas the only one night stands I had by the age of 24 totaled up to 4 and were only because the girls came up to me and took me home.

Now, I should point out that I work with dudes. I lead dudes. Alpha (I kind of hate that word but understand it's meaning) dudes and have always been respected in my job. I can walk into any room and immediately know my place while at the same time making friends with every man in there AND having a plan to kill everyone I meet (don't freak out, it's an infantryman mentality, I'm not a psycho)

So by a lot of standards, I could be considered an alpha male. I've got game, but I can't get a woman to fuck for the life of me, and I think it came down to this.

Honesty.

See, I was investing way too much of myself into women, but never really committing to telling them exactly what I wanted from them. Occasionally I would in person but I know now they could sense something was off. Maybe the discomfort or WORRYING ABOUT HOW THEY WOULD NEGATIVELY VIEW MY SEXUALITY.

At any rate, I have been working at being more blunt. And it is amazing how liberating it feels. It's like I had the lifestyle, the fast car, the social skills, but because I was lacking in that one crucial aspect, it didn't change a thing. And I'll be honest with you (no pun intended) as soon as I was honest with myself with women, I began to feel better.

For example. I texted this woman who I've hung out with once or twice, and had been flirting with. I texted her and said 'one of two things is gonna happen this weekend. Either you are fucking me, or I'm fucking you'

Her. 'Haha okay'

Fast forward to four days later and I tell her I'm gonna pee in her butt-hole to which she replies 'ew wtf I don't even know you like that, wtf is wrong with you?'

For a split second, all the fear and insecurities and shame came flooding into my consciousness as I started at the message on my phone while simultaneously thinking 'well shit. I fucked that up'

But then I remembered. I'm being honest. It's okay that I want to pee in her butt. I don't have to invest in her.

So I typed back 'hahahahaha' and left it at that...because to me, it was a win.

She texted back immediately 'smh bye' and I posted this.

So in closing. I'm taking my life back. I have a lot to learn. Y'all can share wisdom with me...but I wanted to point out that just because you're considered physically attractive by conventional standards doesn't mean that that is the only thing that will get you laid. There has to be balance.