Hi, I work as a software developer in a company I can clearly call toxic. Everyone leaves, the crue consists of newbies and there is only one 40 year old dude that has 20 years of experience as a programmer and 10 year experience in this company so of course we all depent on him for help and guidance at the work process but the guy is sitting on ssri's he has anxiety and probably many other bullshit and acts like a spoiled brat that clearly loves to get spanked as he acts "bad" toward the crew members. He's the only one that can be the crew's leader but he doesn't want the responsibility and act childish all the time.

Many programmers are kind of nerdy and weak individuals that you wouldn't call masculine at all generally and i grew up with different values and principals so even if it doesn't bother them, it bothers me so i find myself in a constant drama with this dude the problem is that i depent on him professionally and this fucker uses it to play mind and power games with me until i put him in his place then he acts needy like he wants to suck my dick.. this is the first guy that i encountered in my entire life that acts just like a chick that i want to bang and i realised that maybe shit testing and all of this is not exclusive behaviour for woman, there are dudes out there acting this way too.

Besides him i have a female boss that generally more rational than this dude buy she's emotional too and i can sense she's testing too and i ask myself wtf will i need to deal witg this bullshit all my life even at work?.... even with dudes?... what can i do to just bypass this bs and just go to work and mind my own business.. i myself generally don't want nothing with most people and just mind my own business do what i do and i got tired of all those needy ass guys and chicks who i feel wants something from me or testing or god knows what...