Slow down, and calm down

darchetype · 2016-11-08T01:08:01+00:00

For those who haven't tried this yet, I recommend going out to lunch by yourself one day and just sit down, relax, and enjoy your meal without fiddling with your phone. Use this time to just slow down, appreciate what's happening around you, maybe try some form of meditating, anything to get away from the hustle and bustle of the work/school hysteria for awhile.

But in addition, take the time to just observe everyone around you as well. It's kind of scary.

Observe how nearly everyone in the food line acts so awkward and anxious, like they're in a hurry for something. Most people are probably on their phones as they're waiting, heads down, barely acknowledging anything around them. No one bothers to ask the cashier or the people making their food how their day is going. It's just get in, nervously order food, and get out. Or get in, sit down, eat, bury their heads in their phone, and get out. Always plugged into their own little world. No time to slow down, take a step back, and just be present. No wonder everyone is always stressed.

LAERAYALP · 2016-11-08T04:11:04+00:00

I have been off Facebook/tinder , all fucking imaginable social media actually for over a year maybe more, no need to keep track. If I wasn't a cunt I'd write a whole long post about this.

That means no need for smart phone. But if one goes that far!

At first people asked, it was annoying. People would look at me crazy if I told them I have no fb. Then it just neutralized.. Basically you're fucking crazy.

People are fidgeting, sweating, dancing around, looking at blanc screens, taking endless selfies. To an outsider (which would be me) it looks like a crackheads response . Oh a little nervous? To the pockets! To the phone!

Now, I work at the gym, there's already music playing there 24/7, my manager is a pretty good DJ , and changes shit up and throws all kinds of cool shit together. But no.. fuck that, 95% of people are double plugged in.

Regardless of me being basically a caveman I still find myself trapped in some kind of gadgetty shit from time to time and it never gives me a good feeling. I am as content as a monk mostly tho compared to the rest of the world.

AtlasAtlasAtlas · 2016-11-08T07:02:40+00:00

Recommendation: Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman (Nobel Prize winner)

CocoaPill · 2016-11-08T11:58:53+00:00

Up-voted because it's sound advice and because grandads rock.

[deleted] · 2016-11-08T01:35:55+00:00

It's something I've added to my life since starting to wake up, and I can say nothing has aided the process more greatly. Your own journal may have 10 lifetimes of profitable action items if only you had the time and resources and wisdom to do it all, as may come in time with careful effort.

If I am listening to a successful person speak, it's the most important thing in my periphery by far. I have started refraining from notes if I know the lecture will be video recorded and often transcribed, and the notes I take are my own distilled ideas because of increased focus periods. But I have 10s of pounds of notes that I carry when I move, plans to digitize in the works

marinewannabee97 · 2016-11-08T08:16:57+00:00

I see the point, however I firmly disagree. I have college, work and the gym to fit into a typical day. This is time I will never get back. It's our most valuable commodity, unlike money we may never earn more. Point is, if it weren't for my rushed nature I'd never be able to fit all of this in.

goldnhorde · 2016-11-08T18:24:05+00:00

this is such good advice (and I mean through the thread).

I never understood or believed my dad when he said "drinking is fun, but staying sober and watching a bunch of drunk idiots is more fun". took me years before I took that advice to heart and frankly, dad was right. drunk morons are hilarious.

the same is true with social media. I don't do the social media thing, but it is hilarious to watch other people do it. I will face time with my friends on my TV jetsons style. none of us live in the same state anymore, so it is required. and we have a very great gaming group on steam (one night a week, every week, teamspeak and gaming with the boys). and that is the extent of my social media. and when people start talking about it. it is just hilarious because it takes so much time and gives so little reward.

but again, watching people run around with their little thumbs a blazing ..... priceless.

kremer5 · 2016-11-08T14:18:00+00:00

slow is smooth and smooth is fast

TheRedStoic · 2016-11-08T18:44:44+00:00

I do this weekly in part of my free time. I go out alone.

Always just to stay sharp, and also it relaxes me. I indulge in comparison between others and myself, then shut down that part of my mind the remainder of the week. Think of it as the opposite of meditating.

Whether it's the park, practicing hoops alone, eating a lone lunch accompanied by a moleskin notebook, I do it without internet, and at a new location if possible, and people watch, I'll always talk to anyone who comes up, usually more than you'd expect, but overall Just practicing being present but separate.

Good advice OP, I heavily recommend this to anyone really. People watching is great.

Roaring40sUK · 2016-11-09T14:19:00+00:00

I am big into this;

1) I dont watch TV (only films/Box sets) 2) I dont read or watch the news 3) I meditate and read.. a lot 4) I never use my phone unless its to speak to someone or get directions

Try these things;

1) Turn off all media and read IN SILENCE 2) Go for a coffee, turn your phone off and just sit.. watch how fucking mad people are 3) Cook a meal in silence

Title	Slow down, and calm down
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Date	November 7, 2016 11:45 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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