Just some random points here to share with the youngbloods. I'm 29, was pretty physically and emotionally awkward and socially inept growing up, lost my vcard at 21, have hooked up with tons of women since then. The quality of women I date has never been higher, and I am spinning so many plates I can't even keep up, with women that I used to think were too good for me. Too attractive. etc.

I went through a period where I was in a band and working at a bar staffed by young women who dressed up as schoolgirls, and hit a peak at like age 24. Kept doing my thing and doing it well, but got lazy about working out and socializing, moved in with my parents and got isolated and frustrated. Finished grad school, moved in with my new band into a nice apartment townhouse in a cool area in a major city, and have been using online dating mainly to get tons and tons of dates. Women are not as complicated as the media likes to pretend. They are actually really fucking simple. They are attracted to things that are evolutionary advantages: status, looks, strong personalities, success, men (who act like "men".)

When I swallowed TRP I was about 17 and I realized that girls all like alpha males, and that hot women usually have worse personalities, because they dont need them, and they are usually pretty heartless because they dont respect most men (because we/ they are transparent and kiss their asses just for a chance at sex.) And no one respects a kiss ass. "If you put a woman on a pedestal, she'll have no choice but to look down on you."

So I had gotten out of shape, my emotions were a mess from 2 years of living with my parents again, and I was in a dry spell. Then I met a hot alpha female randomly and hooked up with her. (You can read my posts about her they are pretty beta and weak, i wouldnt waste my time) She was very strong willed, not very affectionate, very full of herself, very smart, very attractive. Always complained about how she wore the pants in her relationships. We had some great times (long distance) and then after 2 months of her flaking and me putting up with it, she came in town, we fooled around all day but I was nervous and awkward and not alpha or strong-framed, very supplicative, and she dumped me because she didnt feel "the spark she had hoped for."

(However I did take it like a man. I said "wow ok see ya" and didnt respond to her or text her again. She hit me up a few months later playing some games about how she was going to be in town again, I said "why are you saying that like you want to see me again? And she just said ":)" so i deleted her number AGAIN. Havent heard from her since. Good riddance.) Honestly it hurt then, it STILL hurts. I think about her all the time with a mix of missing her, and despising her, frustration with myself, doubt etc; but have slept with a lot of fine women since her, so my oneitis is still there, yes, but I am kicking ass and eventually will be 100% over it. I did not break, I did not cry, I did not beg, I suffered in my own way and changed everything I could that I didnt like. Everything that made me insecure and latch onto her strong personality. I am no longer feeling like a loser because I dont have a job. etc etc.

So:

This lit a fire under my balls, of rage and severe heartbreak and depression. I hit the gym harder than EVER. Got my shit together, quit smoking so much, drinking so much, got a good job, finished grad school, and am happy I went through this breakup because it opened my eyes yet again. The results:

-I will not put up with a girl's bullshit, ever again. If she flakes, I will dump her and delete her number. (unless I just want to use her for sex, then I might keep trying at minimal effort to fuck her which works sometimes, or stop talking to her.) I know now from the breakup what I DONT want. I dont want to feel like shit dating someone who doesnt put in as much effort, care as much, or who has all the power, because I gave it to them. This girl was real flaky and I put up with it, convincing myself that "she was worth it." (she wasnt.) The night we hooked up she asked me to stay in town one more day to see her. Then she didnt even contact me until like 9pm the next night to cancel because she was with her sister. Red flag but I ignored it becuase it seemed plausible. DONT IGNORE RED FLAGS.

-If a girl acts annoying, I will leave her and delete her number. If she plays games, I will dump her ass. If she bores me, I will leave. I will not sit and smile and buy her drinks and beg for her affection. It doesnt work that way, nor should it, nor will it. I have my lines, I establish them early, and if a girl crosses them she loses her chance with me. Bam, next.

Example from this week: A girl from Hinge (dating app like tinder) contacted me first, we went out, had a nice time and all but I wasnt too into her. She wouldnt come to my house (1.5 miles away from hers) becuase it was "too far." But I could walk her to her house, where we made out a little. I didnt contact her then she hit me up at like 930 this monday, "hey any plans?" I was watching my beloved Redskins beat the Cowboys and invited her to join. "Its too far. I want to kiss you and smoke with you mmmm. You can come hang out for a minute and smoke." I said "no thanks I am going to go to bed then." If it's too far for her to come here, then why isn't it too far for me to go there? Am I going to throw myself at any opportunity for some light action? Nope. Too many plates to give a shit. Told her I was going to bed then, she got offended. I said dont be offended, Im tired and watching my team play. She didnt respond, until the next day when she apologized. Wisdom: dont be a bitch. She wanted me to drop what I was doing, come to her place since she wouldnt come to mine, and smoke her up for some light kissing. No thanks. Watched an awesome game and went to bed happy. (note, on our date tons of guys were checking her out with approving looks, but I didnt let that phase me, or pump up her value in my eyes. Any time you take a hot girl out, guys will stare. Big deal.)

-I will NEVER stop working my ass off on myself, and never take a girl's attraction, interest, loyalty for granted. I will never "let my guard down." Even after marriage, LTR, whatever. I won't allow myself to get emotionally attached to any female. The second you become afraid of losing a woman, she begins to get the power, when women have the power they lose the attraction. I am back to my smart ass, cocky but generally nice, fun self. With the hot alpha who dumped me, I was ready to give up everything for her (my life was not where it is now, socially, dating wise, and I didnt have a job so my confidence was hurting.) I will always work out, work hard, and do things on my terms.

-I will NOT be pushed around, disrespected, or treated like less than I deserve. And, due to my hard work, I deserve the best. Once you truly believe this and earn your own respect, the world is yours.

-I will always play the numbers game. I had 0 luck on OKcupid years ago, and now I have tons and tons of matches. Between tinder, okcupid, and hinge I have probably 1500 matches. Because I play the numbers game. I will sit there and swipe right for hours when Im bored. When I get unattractive matches, I wait a day so they dont think im immediately unmatching them and to spare their feelings, and then i delete them to declutter my matches.

-I got a very shallow girl to judge my tinder profile, and she told me to put a full body picture because from my other pics "i might be fat. " Since doing that my match quality went up a ton. Then I put pics of me playing at a badass rock venue, and pictures of me in a suit looking successful. Tips for online dating success: Status. Looks. Personality. Show off your status (without looking like a tool) and put pictures of you that make you look fit and good. If you dont look fit and good, work out until you do and dont give up. You dont have to look like a male model, I am stronger than ever but still have plenty of body fat, and have slept with girls with perfect bodies who are attracted to me physically because I have muscles. (not jacked at all either but I work out.)

I have been consistently getting dates and sex for a few months now, and it is extremely empowering. My phone is full of numbers, mostly from online.

What do girls find attractive:

-strong willed men, who lead, and are successful. Get an education and a good job and girls will love you. I put "working on my second masters" in my okcupid profile and my matches went up from 7s to 9s. Status is the most attractive thing to women.

-Looks. You can only look your best, no one else's. Don't get down about your features, there is no point. Just work out and stay fit, and your best will be good enough for plenty of women, who find work ethic (shown by physical results) very sexy. Don't judge women for being attracted to men's looks, we are the exact same way, and I believe women and men are more alike than most people realize nowadays. Girls play the fuck out of guys, break hearts, fuck who they want, and that's fine. Work your ass off and you will do the same. (not that breaking hearts is good, just saying.)

-Adventure and fun. If you can turn a boring night into a fun night with your personality, spontaneity, charisma, adventurousness, laughter etc., you will be more valuable socially to everyone, more desirable, more awesome. Be fun.

Random tips-

-number numbers numbers. I maybe match with 2% of my "swipes" and yet since I have done so much swiping, I have gotten some BANGIN hot matches because I do it on a massive level. Don't pick and choose which girls you want, see which ones want you and choose from that. -work your ass off, lose the childish habits and do more more more. Never stop moving forward.

Be your self, yes, but your best self, no one else's, but sure as hell you need to be your best. Have style, confidence and charisma. Big old balls to talk to the hottest girls. In fact, from now on, whenever you want to talk to a girl, ONLY approach the girls you find the hottest, or you are inherently settling and lowering your value. Go get rejected 1000x, cuz that one time you dont and you get an amazingly hot girl naked, makes it all worth it.

-Dont put up with ANY shit from girls. The second they start treating you less than you deserve, draw the line. Tell them, without being too aggressive and ruining the light-hearted vibe, that whatever you dont like wont fly. AND MEAN IT. Be willing to walk away. Make them doubt how much you like them. Be the hot chick.

-if you are self conscious about something, and a girl picks that up, you will lose so much attraction. I remember I was in love at a young age with a girl who was so TRP it was what opened my eyes. I was out of shape because I didnt work out and ate like shit. I was wearing layers (girls hate layers if they think you are hiding your body) and I took off my button down shirt, and when I put it back on later, she goes "omg you put your shirt back on.." ewww. She saw my insecurity and felt disgust about it. I mean when you are online dating and you see some girl using all the "myspace angle" pictures and none of them are her full body, do you not feel a lack of attraction and respect. What are they hiding, and why? Then you see that final picture and it is their full body and they look fat, dont you feel like they are being kind of dishonest? Tricking people into meeting up with them? Instead of being "sneaky" go lose weight. Its not that hard if you set your mind to it. I lost 45 lbs in a year when i was 17-18. Get off your fucking ass and go break a sweat, and stop eating so fucking much.

I dunno just felt like going on a rant because I realized that I have out-peaked my former peak at age 24 or so, and am getting with hotter and hotter women, and getting less and less emotionally attached. I have my life, which I have worked hard for. I have attractive qualities: a good job, an education, a hobby that I am passionate about (music,) cool friends, knowledge of cool date spots, and a nice apartment in a major city (in a slightly sketchy area but its up and coming.)

So thought I would share some advice as a 29 year old. It's funny how many 18-21 year olds match me. Remember the frustration with girls who only dated much older guys? There's a reason for that: we have our shit together. We act like men, not like boys. We have some means and experience, and know how to treat a woman. (like a woman not like a heavenly object.)

One random thought that got me less nervous about talking to women (I have severe anxiety btw) is that we are all mortal. We are all going to die, and we are all scared. Women are the same. They know they will die, and dont want to waste their short lives on scrubs. Dont be a scrub. Take care of yourself so well that you can take care of other people to, that is the supreme essence of status. Never put up with their shit, and never stop working on yourself. Know what YOU want. Find out what you DONT LIKE about yourself, and change it until you dont have these deep insecurities. If you cant change it, accept it and change everything that you are able to. Never stop improving, never stop kicking ass.

there's no better feeling than making goals, working your ass off, and then reaching them. Or when girls that used to feel like 9s and 10s and unattainable, out of our leagues, become very very very average. Even the hottest ones have flaws and cant provide you with everything you need. So dont treat them like they are the cure to your life. Everything is temporary. EVERYTHING. this is not disney, this is not hollywood.

alright brothers hope this helped someone. Feel free to ask questions/ PM me with anything you want, specific or general. I know its a long rant.

TLDR- be a beast, never stop working, never put up with women's shit.

I imagine all non-commenting downvoters to be very beta, jelly, and weak.

Edit- i said "i noticed hot girls have worse personalities" but there are tons of hot girls with good personalities, but if you pedestal them like 99.9% of other men, they wont appreciate your true self, because youre not being genuine youre being fake nice and kissing ass to get them to like you, and that loss of attraction to you will make you feel like they suck. Deal with those when they come, work harder, have more fun, and the next chick to come along dont treat her like shes not a mortal, with all the gross, bizarre, and beautiful parts of being a human on earth. Were all in the same boat once you reach adulthood aka post college aka the so called real world. Were all just humans trying to live in a world with conditions we have no choice in and do not understand. Yea lots of girls are shallow, dont fall in love with them and try to own their beauty or control their hearts. Never ever stop playing the numbers game, sharpening your skills. Dont cheat if you have a gf but go seduce or charm or just chat up women with your personality to keep your confidence and skills sharp.

Talk to everyone with a genuine interest! It will keep you happier and people appreciate it. Including women you might want to sleep with. Ok this is turning into a rant good night!