In my experience spanks can be used as a force for good. In terms of getting your woman in line so to speak, spanks are an excellent method to re-inforce in her mind the idea that you are wearing the trousers in the relationship. Of course there are legal aspects to consider here, but spanks even in public between couples are still considered normal, or at least that has been my experience so far. A firm and loud – spank makes her like you more and more. A collection of spanks to be delivered to punish her bad behaviour perhaps are even better. Women know when they have been bad, and if you keep score – she will also remember to not be bad again.

The BDSM community has an extreme fixation with spanking amongst many other things, and perhaps that kind of thing is not for everyone. But you must understand what the spank represents; it’s a quick and easy way to punish bad behaviour without causing any sort of harm. If you are not into spanking then there are other ways in which you can do this. In the past I used to give what I would call emotional slaps, or perhaps be passive aggressive or the like. But you know, the years pass, you realise talking does not necessarily achieve very much, so perhaps – if we are being honest with each other – a spank is an easy and effective method to re-enforce your dominance. Also spanks are quite sexual unlike verbal communication over things to do with her behaviour you didn’t like. Therefore, I would strongly advice incorporation in your interactions with sexual partners you want to keep around.

JUST FYI – I don’t mean that spanks should be used as a way to express your anger towards your partner. They should not be used as revenge. They should in no way be delivered if you are angry. I honestly believe that you should deliver them in a carefree manner and in a very controlled manner. You are in control after all. I do think if spanks are delivered when angry, they can constitute abuse in the mind of your partner, as you will be in essence beating her out of spite. Just thought I would include it there just in case people were not clear about that.