I've been lurking for the past month, but a lot of the recent posts have made me gulp it down. I have a desire to share my life with someone, which fuels my search and may contradict some advice given here but I've dated about 15 girls over the past three months and when I finally thought I was getting somewhere, I feel like I've been doing it all wrong.

Very few of the women I've EVER dated have ever brought real value to the table. I've mostly given into company, a hot body and sex. While there are definitely a few examples of a woman bringing something like a new skillset, money, or more feminine emotions like empathy, compassion, intuition, which offbalance mine. Most of the women I meet provide none of this. Am I looking for value in all the wrong places, or dating the wrong girls? Maybe I value myself too high?

This leads me into the courting phase of a relationship, or dating. In an area of abundance and outcome independence how does a woman portray statuses of her value?

Am I doing this wrong?