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[–]1TheNincro5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
First of all man, your 16. I really admire the mindset you have right now to improve yourself. I wish I had the same at your age. However Redpill is very difficult to integrate in Highschool. Right now I suggest just letting yourself grow and improving yourself with working out and STUDYING. Dont think about girls that much, its a mindset you have to cultivate right now. However to answer your question:
Dont add her on Facebook/Snapchat without 'asking' first. Meaning saying 'Yo, you have a snapchat? Add me'
In highschool I used to invite girls to school games/parties/and the local mall.
Dont listen to the people telling you to get Coffee. Its a dumb idea in Highschool. Highschool is the only time a first date movie is a good idea.
Text her, just dont be over bearing
Thats really all I can give you man. You're supposed to be awkward around girls, its part of growing up. I bet you anything that she has similar questions as you.
[–]Pedophile_Bear1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
17 year old here. Are you saying that redpill is difficult/impossible to implement in highschool? I have been trying, but lack of time/money/privacy makes it difficult.
[–]1TheNincro4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yes, because at your age you're still biologically finding out who you are and still trying to integrate into the broader Tribe.
Also, Highschool kids talk, and when you are a newb at something as Controversial as the Redpill you could get outcasted due to your mistakes which for someone in Highschool who sees the same people everyday is devastating.
[–]Pedophile_Bear0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks, that really makes sense. Going to a small school, I really hate how I have to see the same people everyday, even though I get along fine with most of them
[–]caP1taL1sm0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
TRP is for people who missed out on stuff in high school, college, and even post-college. Missed out on the reality of women and life.
Your job right now is to learn as much as you can, learn to be social and get to know women in the most genuine way possible. Say what comes to mind and never worry about her reaction to what you do/say. Be as natural as possible, there are no wrong answers.
[–]RedditAdminsSuck_883 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I want to meet her and have added her on fb and snapchat.
Stupid. By interacting with women on social media you are automatically entering her frame, every time.
but i dont think i can meet her without getting to know her better
Another blue pill lie that men are brainwashed to believe, that you have to be "friends" with a woman first. The only thing that matters - is she attracted to you or not. If she is, you can ask her out right away and she will be into you. If not, she won't be and you can move on to the next woman. Women will know if they are attracted to you or not within a second or two, so why waste time.
[–]DolorousJenks1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If i didnt interact on social media chances were i wouldnt see her again so even though it gives her leverage its better than nothing. So what im going skiing for a week should i talk to her or not and when i come back just say you wanna come over or what?
[–]Mr-Ed2090 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You have to realise that if she is interested in you, she's going to be keen to meet up. No amount of texting etc is going to 'woo' her into suddenly finding you attractive and someone she wants to fuck. That means, if you get the sense she's not interested (flaking your date plans), cut her out and move on. Likewise you lose nothing and have everything to gain by asking her out directly right now. Do it now.
as im 16 and asking on her on a date may be a bit weird
Fuck I wish I was RedPill aware at 16. This gives you a massive advantage over your peers. Other guys your age are going to be making mistakes and figuring out what works with the laydeez for another decade or so. Likely messaging their crush on FB for weeks before (if ever) asking her out.
As for the date, be wary of being too 'proper' about it. Going for coffee (especially at 16) with a girl is like how your mum tells you to be gentlemen and treat her nice. It's not what is going to get you laid. Teenagers get drunk at parties and fuck in the hosts parents bedroom every weekend, aim to be the guy who does that.
[–]DolorousJenks0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks this all sound solid. What should i ask her to if not coffee
[–]Momentum2 points points points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
This is a very good video on texting/flaking etc. I personally do it almost exactly as the guy at 2:53(RSDJulien) describes it. However, this is just advise, apply whichever seems more congruent to you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJrFQ2ITbcc
I know TRP may mean just leaving it and if i see her again going from there and going for other girls but I dont think i will see her again and I dont get that many opportunities with girls so she seems like a good option
I remember being a horny 16yo, so I understand this is hard to implement, but try to change that mindset/mentality. The whole point of this thread is not how to get this one girl(there is not ONE), but how to be in a situation that you get many opportunities. Good luck!
Ye thats a good point but while im trying with others may as well not ignore this oppourtunity
Ye watched that its what i should aim towards. So when i get back from holiday im just gonna be like hey wanna go do X? what would a good X be?
[–]linsanity2016 points points points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Get her # next time and don't add her on FB or snapchat Just text her, "let grab coffee whats your schedule" If she doesn't reply or is not interested, just NEXT her and talk to more girls BTW "I dont get that many opportunities with girls" is not a good mindset *You will gain abundance mentality by talking to more girls
[–]idontlikethisbutok6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Cause 16yo's "grab coffees"
Dude just do what you think is right it's highschool, bitches and kids are used to texting these days you can't appear to be a 35yo who has his life in check and no time for txt'ing when you're clearly not.
Just be playful don't worry so much about what people tell you here most of them are just keyboard warriors with no real life game or experience talking out of books they've read.
You can send something related to what you talked about then and build off on that just don't assault her with questions, make her see the authentic side of you don't be a robot and ask to hang out sometime maybe go for a walk or something.
Please for the love of God, don't listen religiously to all "textbook" advice you get around here, adapt it to your personality.
Also this "don't get her FB/snapchat" really depends on how the interaction goes, some girls assume automatically that giving you the number makes it very "serious" and shit, fb/snapchat/e-mail is much more casual and less contractual specially for young ones.
[–]DolorousJenks1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Ye this is true gotta take TRP with a pinch of salt and ye idk i didnt talk to her very much at this party on saturday just went downstairs got with her and she had to leave early (wasnt her excuse her friend forced her to) so what would be a good place to start at
[–]idontlikethisbutok0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just tell her you enjoyed the interaction and would like to hang out. If you know a party this weekend even better ask if she wants to tag along.
[–]pellrid0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No pinches of salt, man. The stuff they tell you here is the shit. It's just you're young. You're still developing sexually, and mentally. You feel like an adult, but also like a child simultaneously, and you experience people treat you that way. I'm not saying you could grow up right now, but you'd probably make very stupid decisions. I know I did at your age.
The school microsociety doesn't represent the real world accurately. You are monitored, kept under control. You are forced to spend your days with the same set of people daily, for a minimum of 6-8 hours. It's not like you can next the chick sitting across the classroom like you would next anyone else in the "real world."
[–]NietzscheExplosion-2 points-1 points0 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Be that rebel that doesn't have FB or snapchat.
[–]PissedPajamas1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
And socially ostracized yourself
[–]NietzscheExplosion0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Less "Friends" and more Friends.
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