Thursday Night Out

coolsocks0 · 2023-08-20T13:08:06+00:00

This type of field report doesnt do you any favors, and it provides no value for the reader.

To fix this, you can begin your FR with some basics on yourself and where you stand in regards to the red pill toolkit. No personal information, but whether you've read the sidebar; did you read any relevant books; whether you lift or not; and if this is your first "approach" or your 100th.

Then state a goal for the interactions. Maybe you read an interesting article or a chapter with something you wanted to focus on, etc.

Lastly, you must reflect on what you could have done differently to improve your outcomes, and preferrably write that out in the FR. You can be a leech coming here for validation or to everyone else for answers (dumb), or you can actually write a good FR and solve your own issues pretty much before hitting "post".

maybe you can critique my game and tell me what I did or didn't do.

I assume this is one of the first times you're out actively gaming women.

Negatives: Conversations seemed boring. You called it "sparking" conversation, but you didnt spark much at all. Stayed too logical, asked platonic questions. Kino isnt mentioned. You described opening three sets, but there isnt much to say about it, as i explained above.

Positives: You approached - good for you. Didnt let the fact that you were boring the girls affect you much. Ignored some initial pushback at the open. Attempted some teasing.

Takeaways: keep reading and keep implementing what you read. Set some goals for the night before going out and write better FRs. Have fun.

Woujo · 2023-08-20T19:58:23+00:00

I realized that I was seated alone at my table, so I tried to talk to some of the guys who were around me to calibrate some social proof.

You don't need to know this shit. "Social proof" is not nearly as important as people make it out to be. Obviously, you will be more attractive in a place where you know tons of people and are high-status, but no girl is gonna think you are more attractive because you know Jeff and Bill sitting in the back of the bar.

I hate sitting alone in a venue without sparking some conversation with people who are around me.

This is actually a very bad sign. This shows you are dependent on other's validation and approval and you do not feel good unless you are "accepted" by others. Why not be alone?

After an hour, I opened a set of 2 girls. One girl was talking to a guy, and the other girl seemed kinda bored. So I opened the set by sitting on the empty seat that was next to the bored girl.

Already very bad. Sitting next to a girl is an aggressive move because it basically says "hey, I'm gonna be here a while" which puts pressure on her. Until the woman makes clear she wants to talk to you for a while, you should project the feeling of "I have lots of options tonight, I am going somewhere better, and I only stopped to talk to you for a second because there is something really awesome about you, but I will keep it moving if you do not keep fighting for my attention."

Told the girls "I'm about to leave the venue, just waiting for my bill" so they wouldn't be overprotective about the seat. After that, their guard was lowered.

So you could tell that sitting was too pushy, which is why you backed off with a false time constraint, but why sit there in the first place? I usually don't sit unless I am invited to sit.

After that, their guard was lowered. I sparked a conversation with the girl who I was seated next to. She was drinking wine, so I asked her which brand of wine she was taking.

Did you give a fuck about brand of wine she was drinking? Probably not. So why ask? You don't need to create conversations about dumbass boring shit nobody gives a fuck about. Make it about something fun. Say something like "I just saw my boss's secret gay lover here."

Noticed that she was on the phone as if she was anticipating someone. I totally ignored that and asked her if she comes to the bar quite often, and we talked about some of the venues that were nearby.

Dude if a girl is on her phone and being rude to you, move on. You should follow the alpha male quid pro quo - you only pay attention to women who are working for your attention. This woman wasn't, and I assume she was annoyed by you. You should not have stayed here.

She mentioned that nearby venues have younger folks, and I teased her saying that she looked young. We tried to guess the age of each other, which was kinda playful.

You're gay.

After a few minutes, her female friend finished talking to the guy who was hitting on her. She turned to me and said that they were having a private conversation. Didn't really feel like disarming her, so I just told her I was about to leave.

What the fuck is "disarming"? You got told to leave dude, probably because you were an uninvited guest that was not being fun.

kclanton80 · 2023-08-20T12:57:55+00:00

Yup need to focus on indications of interest before spamming the approach button. Especially when at a bar or club.

Finding a good position where you can be seen and not moving around too much is good. However if a chick wont so much as look at you twice in the venue....she isn't interested.

I'm not anti approach....but there is a subtle art to it. Try and catch some eye contact before just appearing in front of a person. They will signal you if you are someone worth signaling. Your goal is to be good bait for the fish...drop your lure and wait for a bite.

Learn to look for clues that a woman wants to meet someone because WOMEN DO THE CHOOSING. If her head is in her phone and she isn't paying attention to what's going on around her. She isn't looking to meet someone most likely.

Study their body language...are they open? Happy? Withdrawn? Learn the subtleties , and you can get to a very high percentage on your close rate. But you must be someone worth choose first.

Fitness. Hair/grooming Style. The more you have these things going for you, the easier it will be..

Contrary to the belief of money it's not all about your game. Game is most effective in dealing with a woman you have already attracted... Not attracting the woman in the first place.

Many guys who have success with women actually think they have good game when they are just repeatedly being chosen by women who are looking for what that man embodies. Don't get overly hung up on game for the actual attraction.

Be Attractive! Attract! Then your game comes into play.

never_nic · 2023-08-20T12:49:21+00:00

Congrats on going out alone, I personally know well that it takes balls and feels awkward as fuck (at least in the beginning).

Feels like you didn't finish the post though? There's no ending. What happened with the 8? Did you order the shots and just go home? Lmao.

Otherwise a solid, average night out. A good example of what it looks like. I like how you talk about "disarming" the girls, sounds like you've been in the game for a while.

Livecrazyjoe · 2023-08-20T19:07:18+00:00

You had me then stopped the story. What happened.

SalporinRP · 2023-08-20T23:05:47+00:00

After an hour, I opened a set of 2 girls. One girl was talking to a guy, and the other girl seemed kinda bored. So I opened the set by sitting on the empty seat that was next to the bored girl.

She told me that they were waiting for someone to join them in a couple of minutes.

Told the girls "I'm about to leave the venue, just waiting for my bill" so they wouldn't be overprotective about the seat. After that, their guard was lowered. I sparked a conversation with the girl who I was seated next to. She was drinking wine, so I asked her which brand of wine she was taking.

Noticed that she was on the phone as if she was anticipating someone. I totally ignored that and asked her if she comes to the bar quite often, and we talked about some of the venues that were nearby.

She turned to me and said that they were having a private conversation. Didn't really feel like disarming her, so I just told her I was about to leave.

I mean props for not being a pussy and actually talking to women, but dude gain some social awareness.

You can sometimes finesse bitchiness or initial walls with a joke or something but it clearly wasn't working so you have to pull the chute. These two chicks obviously wanted you to leave, but just didn't muster up the courage to tell you until they finally asked for privacy. Women generally avoid direct confrontation, which means they actually wanted you gone 10+ minutes before that.

erikmalkavian · 2023-08-26T15:37:09+00:00

Nice Job, you were being Social is AWESOME!

Title	Thursday Night Out
Author	Outlikealight123
Upvotes	5
Comments	30
Date	August 20, 2023 10:40 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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