*Just a disclaimer. The night, unfortunately, did not end in anything sexual. I feel that it is necessary to describe some things in detail for full clarification, so this could be lengthy.

I don't know how it came over me. It was this girl I've known for about 4 months. I never was interested in her, but rather her friends. I would rate her about an 8/10. But suddenly, something clicked. For about a month I caught feels for her and realized I'm in some deep oneitis shit. I did eventually end up asking her out to bowling one on one, but she downplayed the situation into a "that's boring, but we can do it with friends!" resolution. Ouch. This caused me to pack up and leave Orbiterville.

Regardless, after that I began withdrawing attention, but being cordial at school. I was invited by a mutual friend of ours to a dance party. She was also going. This... caused a bit of hesitation for me, but I said why not and ended up going.

I get to this salsa club early and chill with the guys there. Get to meet the owner of the club, his wife, some cool guys who knew their dancing shit etc. The girls the friend invited ended up coming, with the oneitis in tow. Around her I kept a friendly but aloof attitude, treating her as... say, your boss's daughter. I wasn't too good at dancing, but danced with every girl that was there and gamed the attractive ones. I wanted to close with this chilean girl and escalation went smoothly, but she had to leave very early, unfortunately, we were vibing pretty well and the kino went up smoothly. I go and dance with some strangers, get to know them and this goes on for a few hours.

I got a bit tired, so I sat down on a couch. The oneitis came and sat next to me and we started having some small talk. Then, one of my guy friends comes up to me and grabs my hand in a funny gay-esque manner. She says "no, Dark, you're cheating on me", and I reply with "you're not the first one I've cheated on". Look on her face was priceless, and she bursts out laughing. She also mentions how she's never had a boyfriend before, I smirk and tell her "I find that hard to believe" with a smirk, and do some more small talk. I continue keeping the aloof but friendly attitude with her and flirt / game the other girls and have some banter with the guys. More dancing and fun ensues.

Later on, the guys decide to leave. It's getting late, and I live pretty far away, so I also start leaving. Hug all the girls, say goodbye to all the guys and oneitis comes up to me and asks me "but if you're leaving who's going to take me back home". I reply with a "not my problem, but I'm sure you'll find somebody here". The girls all eventually end up biking with me as my route coincides with theirs. Oneitis suggests that we all go to McDonald's and have a bite. I've made my intentions clear previously... that I don't want to hang out with her as "just friends". I tell her that I'm not hungry and that I'll be going home, and say a good night to everybody.

Why did I decide to write this? Because whenever I'd look at her before, I'd get tingles, an intense dopamine rush. Even when she was next to me that night... I felt NOTHING. Not a "the one" anymore, but just another pretty girl trying to keep me in the friendzone by leading me on with beta leftover crumbs. No thank you. Refusing to hang out with her and her friends was the most LIBERATING feeling ever. It was the first time I have ever felt outcome independence. Even though I didn't get laid, I had tons of fun dancing salsa and practicing some game on other girls and meeting some very interesting people.

It is safe to say that I am finally over her once and for all. If you have any criticisms or comments on the situation, please let me know in the comments.

tl;dr - Abundance is key, felt outcome independence for the first time and walked from oneitis