What advice does TRP have for introverts?

puaSenator · 2013-10-01T09:12:50+00:00

There is a difference between being introverted and having social anxiety, and using your introversion as an excuse for your poor social skills. I'm an introvert, but if you ask anyone, they'd probably say I'm definitely extroverted. That's because they only know the social side of me.

Personally, as an introvert, I can't be around people all day. I simply can't socialize and be around groups for a large period of time. It's not that I have a problem with it, it's just that I enjoy doing solo activities like gaming, reading, working on a hobby, or even cooking a meal. It's how I unwind and sort of focus on myself, my thoughts, and not have to interact with anyone other than myself.

So TRP is completely applicable in my life. But I have a feeling you may be someone with social anxiety and withdraw from social situations because you do poorly in them. In that case, start reading some self help books and work on your personal issues before taking the pill.

bigyellowtwinki · 2013-10-01T10:13:13+00:00

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riskrowe · 2013-10-01T10:03:18+00:00

We've all got an introverted side and an extraverted side. When you're socialising people will see the extraverted side of you, so introverts need to develop that through practice. You're someone else when you're around other people, so find out who you are.

Maybe you're all about the comfort and the good feels, maybe you like joking around and just having fun with people, maybe you like to get creative and discuss ideas, or maybe you're a leader and you want to direct the group toward some kind of goal.

Know and accept yourself and then try to find people you get along with.

whiskey_bearfist · 2013-10-01T13:17:07+00:00

introvert and extrovert is more about how you "recharge your battery"

an introvert needs to be alone after spending time socializing, where an extrovert needs to be around people to get energy going.

trp and game is applicable to both groups. you may just need to budget your time in highly populated areas.

2013-10-01T15:27:43+00:00

As an introvert, I sympathize with your position. I truly do not like large groups of people.

Frankly they suck. Individuals are great and all, but put more than three in a room at the same time and I'd rather not be in there as well.

Something that I've found that helped me IMMENSELY is to have a goal for the socialization. I'm not there to hangout and shoot the shit, I'm there for a purpose, something I can focus on in my hindbrain while I do the social dance.

ekjohnson9 · 2013-10-01T20:14:34+00:00

I am an introvert in the sense that I need my alone time to "recharge" but I'm very social. If you're not that social then learn to be. It really is a skill. Don't use alcohol as a crutch either. Spend your alone time working out and doing self reflection.

2013-10-01T21:19:42+00:00

It all comes down to harnessing your introversion into certain, confident stoicism. Are you quiet because you're laid back and don't give a shit or because you're too nervous to say anything?

It helps to perceive loud alphas and one-uppers as jesters, while you see yourself as the king, watching them for your amusement. Obviously it's imperative to not cross the line to flat out arrogance in this social exercise. Occasionally ask questions and comment on the conversation while casually dissolving back into observation mode. Oftentimes an alpha can burn out and tire himself while your reserved energy can make you look more collected if you perfect this enough.

Reading up on sigma theory (the quieter, lone-wolf version of alpha) has been a great help to me too. I've had many different sigma friends over the years who pulled a lot of tail, and harnessing this path for myself has also worked wonders since taking the red pill.

2013-10-02T01:19:01+00:00

Introverts usually have something they do while they are alone that is important to them. I think the thing to remember is that if it is important to you, it might also be important to others and from time to time the world needs you to share that thing with it.

I know when I'm out somewhere and I don't want to be there, my mind goes to my invention, or making up a song, or the web game that I'm scrapping together (it has taken a great deal of effort to rid myself of video games). They aren't exactly panty wetting things to talk about in bars so I don't bring them up in those settings, but that mindset is still there. The world needs what I've got, I've got to go out there and give it to them from time to time.

Basically you've got to find a way to channel those passions into getting whatever it is you want out of the world.

ChaoticParadox · 2013-10-01T13:00:48+00:00

Humiliate the fuck out of yourself already. Then you have nothing left to worry about, which means you can stop giving any fucks what anyone thinks.

Nemester · 2013-10-01T16:03:12+00:00

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LifterofThings · 2013-10-01T19:21:04+00:00

Uh... learn to fake it, for business/career purposes, if not for hooking women.

projectself · 2013-10-01T22:39:14+00:00

alcohol is great "social lubrication" for meeting people. introversion is great "aloof game" for building tension and avoiding oneitis.

As long as you see multiple girls, avoiding getting attached to one, being a bit introverted can be a good thing.

2013-10-01T08:41:06+00:00

Well, without any details to go on, I would say work on being extroverted.

Nemester · 2013-10-01T16:53:17+00:00

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