Who am I?

EgocentricMegaloMan · 2015-11-22T06:29:15+00:00

Brother, let me start this off by saying two hours for a write up like this to be on this thread without a word is troublesome to me.

Anyway, "Who am I?", as the article is titled, is a great question. It's the type of question we should be asking ourselves routinely. The minute we stop questioning who or what we've become, we become complacent. You've been in this MGTOW and trp life for over a year you say. How old are you? What's your career like? I picked up on some definite confidence issues as it pertains to your body and you openly admitted some flaws you have right now. That's good that you see those flaws. You've identified them. Now fix them. Fuck females man, they ain't shit. You aren't getting the ones you feel like YOU deserve? What the hell are YOU doing about it? This isn't some fantasy that takes place over night and your friends are right about telling you that females aren't for your happiness. If you're in the struggle right now brother, then keep pushing.

I'm no endorsed internet hero, but I've applied these principles and no one else has given you any other advice: crush the side bar, destroy the gym, and don't worry about females.

And for fuck sake man, don't commit suicide. Mentally kill the shitty hipster neck beard you were a year ago and emerge a Viking with a horse dick!

recon_johnny · 2015-11-22T08:01:23+00:00

Son.

There is no deserves.

DESERVES GOT NOTHIN' TO DO WITH IT.

You sit, think, and absorb that for awhile.

You are young. Clearly. That's OK, and know that the person you are now is not the person you'll be in 5 years, and that person will not be the same person in 10.

You grow. And change. This is normal.

You vacillate between Red and Blue, because you aren't fully grounded in either. That's ok. It takes time to change a philosophy, or a belief. You will take steps backward, as much as you move forward.

What I will tell you is that, if you continue to stay dedicated, you will move forward. No-one here can know what you're going through at this moment, but most here knows exactly what you're going through--because we've been there. Things do get better.

Lastly. This is nothing more than victim puke. It is soundly chastised here. Act like a Man, Be a Man. When you want to say "woe is me", stop. Be stronger than that, because you are stronger.

Enjoy the small things and count them.

So stop being a little bitch and act like a Man.

NeoreactionSafe · 2015-11-22T14:38:52+00:00

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I have a hard time discovering my true Identity.

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I'll give you a secret.

Your identity was constructed by imitation of everyone else as well as all the technology we have these days.

Blue Pill is an emotional indoctrination process. (it was forced into you... unconscious)

So change your question:

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Rather than asking "who am I?"

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Ask "who am I not?"

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Kill the Beta by realizing your identity is the beta.

You are not free of illusion until you become disillusioned first.

The Red Pill replaces the Blue Pill.

The Red Pill is aware of every aspect of the Blue Pill.

By knowing the true nature of the Blue Pill you destroy its myth inside you.

So to know yourself study the Blue Pill here at Red Pill and destroy the myth of your beta identity.

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Gltmastah · 2015-11-22T19:14:12+00:00

Your first paragraph reminds me of the great book that is "No Mr Nice Guy". Please read it, as it was made for people tailored like you, or me. Keep strong, as I once walked a similar path as yours. The only thing I can tell you, is that if you manage to cross the depression threshold, nothing will ever feel as bad, and everything will feel bright. Good luck my mental brother.

DarthExero · 2015-11-22T10:13:24+00:00

You need to be genuine with what you are interested in. If you thought dressing like a hipster would impress other people and it didn't, that is on you. Dress how you like, learn what you like, get ideas from other people. But don't do things anticipating what women like. There is no need to grow some beard and put your hair in a man bun because that is the flavor of the week.

Likewise with photography. If you did it because you liked it. Fine. But if you did it because you want to seen as a photographer from other people. Quit. Lots of people pick up habits they don't particularly like thinking that others will find it attractive and it doesn't work. And it is insincere.

Pick up doing more things that you like and that improve the quality of your life somehow. If you like powerlifting, do that, enjoy it, make some powerlifting friends. Who gives a fuck what girls think about it. It is more attractive that you do something you like rather than you do something for the goal of impressing women.

Try to be genuine to yourself. Find things that you like doing and do them more. Figure out a few objective way to improve yourself and do them. Figure out activities that make you happy that do not seek the validation of others and do them.

You need to be in a state where you can be happy doing your own thing.

PandaMania3 · 2015-11-22T12:04:01+00:00

About a year ago, I decided to find new meaning to my life since getting a woman has not really worked for me(because aesthetics or lack thereof). After I discovered the proverbial red pill through the MGTOW community, I discovered this subreddit. Both communities have helped me substantially.

We sometimes think that a woman is what we need in life. But as the saying in Fight Club said, We're a generation of man raised by Woman. I'm not sure anotber woman is what we really need.

Before discovering the red pill, I did things for other people; taking up personalities that I thought would make people like me. Dressed a certain way(hipsterish), took up certain hobbies(eg. photography) and even lost weight. After accomplishing all of these I still did not get the woman I "deserved", and people still made of the way I looked. I became severely depressed, and contemplated suicide, gained my weight back and started power-lifting (to relieve stress). A few months ago, I discovered some red- pillers on YouTube( "bar bar" , "the thinking ape" etc).

Now I know this subreddit does not fully support MGTOW, but these guys lifted up my spirit. Just like this subreddit, they look at things from a evolutionary psychological standpoint, and made me understand that I should not see myself the way I do. They also made me understand that women are not source of my happiness but they come along for the ride when I am at my best. That, even if they never come, it is totally fine. Moreover, my wellbeing should matter to me more than anyone and more than anything. Now I know this sounds elementary, but it took time for me to understand.

It's good that you went down the road society told you before. For you've seen yourself how much they lie to us, so that we fulfill the part in society tells us to. "Everyone is a Winner" is merely a lie to lead us continue on, Trying to be someone else is not going to benefit us at all.

And the "Promised Entitlement" that they told us of? The Cake is a Lie.

The problem I have is that I relapse to the blue pill world from time to time(because biology) and I have a hard time discovering my true Identity. In other words, when my Identity fails me, I feel bad. I can’t hold on to the few friends I make, I open up to friends about my feelings, and express my red pill philosophy. I just want to be me, and if no one cares, I want to be okay with it(as I am 75% of the time). I do not want to feel empty and really do not want to lie to the world just so I can keep people in my life. Advice?

Find new friends. The important thing is to be yourself, if you aren't completely comfortable in being yourself, you aren't going to find people who will enjoy being around you.

It's enticing to just turn back into the comfort zone where we left off from, but keep in mind that you do not want the efforts you've put to go down to waste, everything you've done before to make yourself better, by going against them is to tell yourself that you've wasted all those efforts before.

Do you want to disappoint yourself? Or do you want to continue be the Sculptor with the Chisel and work on the statute which is you.

drummmmergeorge · 2015-11-22T13:51:01+00:00

You're still in the indentiy vs. confusion stage, mon ami. Let life fuck you up, and bite the pillow. Hopefully you'll go for far.

NightwingTRP · 2015-11-22T15:48:27+00:00

Make a plan to set out and get some quality male friends. Ones who typically agree with what you have to say on shit.

dimarond · 2015-11-22T10:42:25+00:00

The answer to your question is simple. Who are you? Whoever and Whatever you want to become. You see you can become anything you ever wanted.

You must set a clear goal for yourself if you want to achieve it and strive towards it daily. Wanna turn people's heads=work out, want to learn something new =read/attend seminars e.t.c. Have you tried Monk Mode?

And you don't have to lie to people around you to keep them there, when you do what you love those people will come to you. For example if you go and practice MMA in a dojo eventually you'll meet people who align with your interests, you just have to go out there and find them.

NameOfAction · 2015-11-22T21:34:09+00:00

In my early 20's my dad said to me after a breakup "What do you want?"

Never thought of that before. Didn't give it enough thought when I did finally hear it.

After a while I changed majors 3 times, ran with different circles of friends, changed the way I dressed over and over.

Most of what I experienced turned out to be bull shit. But it was what I wanted to be doing at the time. And in the end, what I settled on, what I decided was "Me" is something I never would have discovered had I not tried a million things that weren't me.

Try everything that interests you at the time. Just make sure its for you. Where you end up will most likely surprise you, but you'll know who you are, and just as importantly, who you aren't.

Once you know that, friends and women won't be hard to find.

-rubashov · 2015-11-22T18:17:42+00:00

I'd suggest reposting this to asktrp sub as they are better at giving more practical advice to this type of question.

To add my own however..

First of all you're in bargaining stage. If you don't know what that means read the side bar and use the search function.

I have a hard time discovering my true Identity. In other words, when my Identity fails me, I feel bad.

This doesn't make sense. I believe you mean that you don't know your Identity. Well in that case discover it. You'll do that by throwing yourself in unfamiliar scenarios, by exploring the unknowns. Doing the same thing as you are currently doing and expecting different results is insanity.

I can’t hold on to the few friends I make, I open up to friends about my feelings, and express my red pill philosophy.

Jeasus bro listen to yourself. You can't hold onto the friends you make because you're a whiny little bitch who blabs his 'feelings'.

You know who does this? Women. They get a pass cause they have a vagina. You don't. Suck it up and accept that you're a man and your life is twice as hard. The only one who cares about your feelings is yourself. Get used to it.

I just want to be me, and if no one cares, I want to be okay with it(as I am 75% of the time).

As above no one cares. You're a man. Embrace it. Your only utility to society is what you make by dragging yourself up from the depths kicking and struggling.

I do not want to feel empty and really do not want to lie to the world just so I can keep people in my life.

This will pass, as above see the stages of RP acceptance. You have to commit however. Start actively improving yourself, keep lifting, read this sub daily. Read the top 500 post of all time.

Remember actions not words. Your life won't change if you don't change your actions.

redpillstoner · 2015-11-23T04:03:58+00:00

You're a monkey on a rock. Nothing more nothing less. Your organic body will die. Life is meaningless. Which makes you free. Go out and create some meaning. Don't let others create it for you

RealBlueSky · 2015-11-22T18:41:50+00:00

You are the sum of your hopes, dreams, and achievements. There's good news and bad news that come with this realization.

The bad news is, you're not really anybody yet, because you haven't had a chance to be. You're 21 years old and you've spent at least 18 of those years being told what to be by everybody else. The good news is that, unlike most people, you have the potential to change and sculpt yourself into whatever you want to be.

Now the painful part is going to be deciding what you want and how you're going to get it. People go their entire lives not knowing who they truly are at their core, so the fact that you're so young and asking these questions is in and of itself a good sign.

Take some time and decide what you want to get out of life, and start a rough draft of how you want to go about it. You'll figure out who you are after you've navigated more obstacles and challenges, don't sweat it.

Title	Who am I?
Author	paperlion60
Upvotes	10
Comments	19
Date	November 22, 2015 3:59 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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