“There is no consciousness without discrimination of opposites.”

– Carl Jung

We are taught from a young age that traditional gender roles are outdated and oppressive towards women. People believe we’ve made Progress over the past century in this regard. Now that women can vote, attend college, and work in any field they desire, it appears they have more “freedom” than in the past.

There are a couple statistics lurking in the background, though, that call into question the true nature of all this “Progress.”

  1. Studies indicate that women’s happiness and wellbeing has plummeted over the past 30 years. A new report from the National Bureau of Economic Research states, "By many objective measures the lives of women in the United States have improved over the past 35 years, yet we show that measures of subjective well-being indicate that women's happiness has declined both absolutely and relative to men.” (1)

  2. The divorce rate has doubled since the 1950s. (2)

So we have an odd situation in which women are experiencing higher rates of divorce and depression, and yet equate this state of affairs with “freedom” and “liberation.” These two stats alone don’t conclusively prove any thing, but they are important to keep in the back of your mind as you read this post.

THE TRUTH

I grew up in a liberal household, attended a mainstream university, and spent time as a teenager formulating arguments against “The Man.” I get it. I get that people don’t want to be told how to live, and like to chart their own course in life. Especially when you’re young, societal standards and expectations can seem dogmatic and pointless.

However, when it comes to gender norms, we've lost our minds. Here’s why: if a man adopts a self-improvement mindset, he becomes more masculine over time. He gets bigger from going to the gym, acquires additional money and resources from success at work, and has more sex with attractive women. Sex, fitness, work - these are the things men succeed at on the way to reaching their full potential as human beings.

Smart women self-actualize as well, but in different ways. Think about it. Women can’t put on significant muscle mass (and most wouldn’t want to any ways) no matter how much they lift. Having tons of sex also isn't a sign of success for women; in fact, it's just the opposite. Furthermore, a successful career woman still has to take months and years off if she intends to have a family. The two sexes are simply wired to value different aspects of life (both of which are valid.)

Relationships thus need to be polarized if both parties want to reach their full potential. Indeed, if you’re a man who’s constantly improving himself, you actually can’t be in a relationship with a non-submissive woman. It would never work. Part of the masculine path involves becoming stronger, more dominant, more independent, and so on. These character traits are not compatible with a Blue Pill relationship premised on equality and codependence.

Carl Jung believed that "The most primordial function of the father archetype is to promote discrimination of opposites and consequently differentiation of various unconscious contents.” (3) In other words, Men/Fathers are logical; we use our minds to "bring things to the light." We don't let something as important as a relationship remain completely undefined and unconscious. No, there must be some logic and rules underlying them.

Ironically, Feminists aren't entirely wrong when they say that gender roles are a social construct. Gender roles are indeed constructed - by men. Its our job to give out and enforce roles for women and children. These types of points often get over-philosophized. "Who says the Man gets to assign roles? That's so unfair, etc." Don't even participate in these types of conversations. It's not about philosophizing. It's about what actually works right now, in real time.

Men run the social system because, frankly, we can. We recognize that being strong is the best way to help others - so toxic masculinity doesn't factor in here at all. Men don't take any pleasure in lording their position over women and children - that concept is ludicrous. Life isn't only about power - the Feminine side is great too; it's just different.

Overall, opposites (masculine and feminine, for example) are good. They are complimentary, and allow each side to come to know itself. Without the dynamic tension that comes from opposing forces, you have a “dead battery” - no attraction. When you start to intuitively comprehend these concepts, then you’ll notice there is a sort of brainwashing program going on right now that seeks to depolarize men and women. It’s genius because all the words used to push this agenda sound nice and high minded. Blue pillers talk about freedom, equal rights, and so on. In reality, the way to progress in life is to become more yourself - not more of some vague humanistic ideal. If you’re a man that means you'll become much stronger, tougher, more logical, etc. You need to kind of be on "war footing" if you really want to wake up.

My blog is www.legendary-peace.com

SOURCES:

(1) http://www.nber.org/papers/w14969

(2) http://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Historical_Divorce_Rate_Statistics

(3) http://www.therapyvlado.com/english/father-archetype/