“Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power.” -Seneca

"I have to die. If it is now, well then I die now; if later, then now I will take my lunch, since the hour for lunch has arrived – and dying I will tend to later. -Epictetus

Stoicism is a masculine philosophy: it requires the conscious coupling and decoupling of thoughts and feelings. Women are less naturally capable of this. She is a slave to her nebulous thoughts and whatever feelings she finds automatically attached to those thoughts.

Otto Weininger named these in-articulated female thoughts in his book "Sex and Character" over 100 years ago. He called them "Henids".

"Man has the same psychic contents as woman, in a more articulated form; while she things more or less in henids, he thinks in clear, distinct concepts linked to definite feelings which can always be removed from their objects. In W "thinking" and "feeling" are one, undivided, for M they can be separated. That is, W still experiences many things in henid form, when in M clarification has long since taken place." - "Sex and Character", Otto Weininger P88

For a man who has no CLEAR and DEFINED models of reality in his mind, stoicism is impossible. This is why the side-bar is so important for RP veterans and newbies alike. If your CONSTRUCTS OF REALITY are VAGUE then you are only capable of thinking in henids.

"It is always W who expects the clarification of her vague ideas, *the interpretation of her henids** , from M. Where Woman has vague, unconscious ideas, she actually expects, desires, and demands to see in Man's speech the structuring of thought, which she regards as a (tertiary) male sexual characteristic and which affects her in that way. That is why ... they may be sexually repelled by a man who simply agrees with what they say and does not immediately say it better than they do.*" - "Sex and Character", Otto Weininger P90

The conclusion we draw from this, is whether you are a newbie desperate to get his dick wet or a veteran looking to maintain his edge.. All of us should be regularly going to the sidebar to clarify and refine our imprecise henids into PRECISE MODELS of the sexual marketplace and the world at large.

It is through this clarity that we gain certainty of thought and action. This is the prerequisite of Stoicism. It is through Stoicism that we gain the ability to control ourselves and adeptly maneuver the fucked up reality of the modern mating game.

He is the master of his fate who is the master of his own mind.