You hear it all the time “fake it til you make it”. This is an illusory statement on a superficial level. Faking it until you make it translates to “adopt someone else’s rules until you understand how to make your own” or “be someone else until you imaginarily turn into ‘the person you want to be’. Faking it produces two possible products: either A) you will be caught and will therefore lose relationships and respect , or B) you will base your reality off your fallacy and live your hollow life around a lie and never be able to become the true best version of yourself. The underlying statement in both of these products is that if you act, then your mind will believe your actions and therefore make you feel better, temporarily.

“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.

Thus the sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness, if our spontaneous cheerfulness be lost, is to sit up cheerfully, to look round cheerfully, and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there. If such conduct does not make you soon feel cheerful, nothing else on that occasion can. So to feel brave, act as if we were brave, use all our will to that end, and a courage-fit will very likely replace the fit of fear.

— William James, (1922)

They say if you act like you have a million dollars you’ll feel like you have a million dollars. If you act like you’re confident (adopt alfa RP tactics and PUA tactics) then you’ll feel like you’re confident. If you act like you know what you’re doing, then you’ll feel like you know what you’re doing. The trend in all of these statements is that you’ll feel like you are something you’re not because the brain responds to action by inducing emotion. This, on a profound level, is all a fallacy, a delusion, an antithesis to reality.

You’re sitting there wondering shit, “Why didn’t she respond to me?” “Why did I fuck this chick but still feel hollow and unsatisfied?” “Why don’t my friends truly respect me?” “Why don’t people take me seriously”. Humans are very good and fast at finding and catching these fakers, especially women. Are you wondering why she is or isn't doing x or y? You’re not the real deal, she disappears. Are you wondering why you’re feelings and confidence in yourself isn’t wholesome? You’re not the real deal, it disappears. Stop wondering why shit isn’t the way you want it to be if you live your life a fallacy. (*Spoiler: you won't actually wonder once you become the real deal) It is necessary for you to eat some, a lot of dirt, be humble, go through shit, in order to later come out on top and have genuine, wholesome thoughts, actions, and emotions for yourself. It is ideal for you to fail until you become real. This process is necessary for your genuine and honest development. Faking it will only last so long, and so will that relationship, that respect, that “confidence” feeling, that feeling of “accomplishment” and all else along with it. Stop faking it, become the real deal.