I've recently gone on some dates and in the process connected with a pretty cool chick, but from what I've read, she is a textbook pickmeisha. Without going into too much detail, she doesn't have very strong boundaries and has a history of giving in a relationship to the detriment of herself. Outside of her past relationship troubles, she is a very smart, funny and beautiful woman and one that I could see myself getting into a relationship with. The term HVM is too subjective for me to make the mistake of claiming to be one, but I do genuinely feel I am more HVM than LVM, I at least hit all the prereqs of being a good and successful person by most standards. I'm not perfect, but I definitely know how to create and function in a solid relationship.

My question is, saying we pass the usual barriers to a good relationship (compatibility, attraction, interest, etc), are there qualities that most pickmeishas have that inherently cause problems in a relationship or is it just mainly that dudes treat them like shit and they go along with it? Basically, if I continue to treat her right, can we build something solid even if she remains a pickme?

Kind of a weird question, but this is the situation I find myself in...