Dating with mental illness

Pasdepromesses · 2020-07-19T22:40:31+00:00

FDS strongly advices women to level up in every way (so that includes physically and mentally) and be the best version of themselves.

Most women on the sub who are dealing with mental illness, trauma or need to level up in another way (for example: self esteem), actually have professional help in the form of a licensed therapist or life coach, etc. You need to be emotionally available and stable to get into a relationship with a HVM.

Date yourself first and fall in love with you. This way, you won’t accept any less from a man than you’ll be able to give yourself.

Edit: if you have a mental illness but you’re treating it with therapy and/or medicine and you can be emotionally available and stable that’s a go from me for a woman to date. But be aware that women are more prone to seeking help and are more willing to work on personal growth than men. I am more wary of men in this situation.

fireflyfly3 · 2020-07-21T20:24:31+00:00

Bipolar woman here. From experience, men are far less likely to seek help and comply with treatment for mental illness than women. That’s why being in a relationship with a mentally ill man is so exhausting. If they make it to a doctor, they get prescribed meds, maybe finish the bottle, then never refill them because they feel better at the time. Men expect you to stay in shape and be constantly happy, and will make comments reminding you to take your ‘happy pills’, yet they won’t take responsibility for their own health. They think you’re harpy or downright bitchy for refusing to walk on eggshells around them so you don’t set them off... which can get abusive real quick.

If a man discloses that he has a mental illness I expect full compliance with a prescribed professional treatment plan before continuing the relationship. I expect men to demand the same from me.

It is far better to be single than tied to a non-compliant, mentally ill person.

2020-07-21T08:13:46+00:00

Depends. Is your mental illness managed and controlled? Did you already do extensive work to get it to a certain level and continue to do that work to get better?

I think as long as you’re able to have a healthy functional relationship, it’s fine. There will be certain mental illnesses (although rare) that will be almost impossible to have this, but most are able with consistent work.

Title	Dating with mental illness
Author	spoopyspoons
Upvotes	8
Comments	4
Date	July 12, 2020 2:32 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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