So I had a fwb for 11 years, we lived across the country from each other but his home town was where we went to collage, so he would visit maybe once a year. I wouldn’t say we hooked up every time but we kept in touch on the phone. Anyway. We finally started dating long distance and he told me that I was everything he was looking for and we had a good relationship, but I was still hurt from the past and kept picking fights because I had trouble thinking that I wasn’t just Someone he was setting for even though he would assure me.

He eventually got tired of the arguing and we broke up. I’m crushed. I feel like I finally got what I wanted and ruined it because I have only ever experienced toxic romance and the long distance brought back bad memories, some of which he contributed to before we got together officially.

I feel broken. I don’t know how to let go and I just want him to give me another chance but his mind is set on the face we will only ever be friends now.

How do you not feel broken or be too hard on yourself after a break up?