Hi everyone,

My close friend of 10+ years has recently gotten into a relationship, and I’m struggling a bit with her actions.

She prioritises him over us, where she will be too tired or busy to go out for dinner or on a day trip to the beach with myself and our friends, she will always say yes to him.

I get that a new relationship is exciting but I can’t help but feel like he is more important despite only knowing her for 2 months, versus our very long friendship. She blew off New Years, halloween and other times to see him and it’s really frustrating. I and another one of our friends are moving across the country in a few months and it’s hurts that she wouldn’t prioritise time with us while we are still here.

That being said she is an amazing friend, always supportive and ending our friendship over this is not an option so please don’t suggest that as a solution.

I understand where she’s coming from because I’ve been in her shoes, and as a person she places a lot of importance on dating. This is more for advice on how I can not take this personally and how to deal with the jealousy I am experiencing.

Edit - I forgot to add that she will be too “tired” to see me but I will find out that she spent the day with him. Fine to spend your time how you want but I wish she would just be honest and say she’d rather see him.