Background. I'm an asshole always have been. but last year or so been Red Pilling it up and getting more comfortable with my own shit and not needing validation from her. I feel better if nothing else. She's a low sex drive girl, low maintenance, low interests. I'm way more driven, and more social. I'm 54 she's 58, married 29 years

So I went to a dance class today, Tango and Hustle. I had a rocking good time. I didn't ask nor invite the wife as she A. has a bad ankle she's nursing and can't dance on it. B. She was out with a friend when I decided I wanted to go.

We rarely text each other, so I didn't text this either.

Wen I got back she was acting hurt, I stood next to her, shoulder to shoulder, not holding her, but gently leaning against her and ask what was wrong. She moved away and said "you probably won't want to dance with me anymore, since you keep taking all these dance classes"

I didn't move, she was the one that moved away, I just said "I always want to dance with you. Me not wanting to dance with you is never the problem."

Then she says, I don't remember the wording, that if I meant what I said, I should have put my arm around her or something. I took that as a shit test, and just kept quiet. She sputtered a little and tried to throw it back at me, which I just ignored, she wasn't able to generate any passion on her own to get mad so she quickly ran out of steam.

We then went to dinner with a relative and it was about as nice as it gets. Maybe she wasn't as chatty as she can be.

So do you masters of RP think I should have cuddled the poor little thing?

Edited to add background