How do you remember the principles and not forget or lose grip on them?

anm767 · 2026-05-21T22:16:32+00:00

Be an interesting man and life will fall in place. A new hobby every 6 month and make sure you become good at it. Read a new book every month. This way you have more to talk about than weather and can have interesting dates, such as going to events at your hobby where you dominate everyone with your superior skills instead of paying for her dinner and watching her chew food.

2x1xMA · 2026-05-22T02:21:40+00:00

Your very intent isn't about yourself, but how you appear others. You want fitness advice? Go to fitness subs. You want pickup and closing advice? Go to seduction/PUA subs. No question you asked has been about yourself and how you become a better man... Or a man at all.

Stop giving a crap about looks so much. Stop giving a crap about girls. Work with what you have and work on what you can actually change. Accept the rest.

If you want to actually help yourself and solely for yourself, start with reading the sidebar. And lower those calories for God's sake.

MikeSilencer_ · 2026-05-23T16:25:05+00:00

The fuck is wrong with you, dude? You use all your unattractive collection of mental models and cling to them to be safe from abandonment, or whatever your issue is.

What the hell do you want?

If you know rollo's work, you do understand this is triage.

If you don’t have a aim and work towards achieving that aim, nobody will help you.

Get your thumb out of your ass and decide on a course of action. Because nobody will give you a hand when yours has shit on it.

RevolutionaryBox3728 · 2026-05-25T02:01:42+00:00

Fingerfucking. Your word, not mine. Best line in your whole post. Sit with it for a minute, because the rest of the post is you running from what you just admitted.

You asked how to remember the principles. You’re remembering them fine. You quoted Rollo, you used RP slang correctly, you understand frame, you know what fingerfucking means in this context. The knowledge is intact. What you’re calling “forgetting” isn’t forgetting. It’s not living it. Principles you embody don’t need recalling. They become how you move. If you have to keep reminding yourself, you have concepts not principles. There’s a Rollo line that applies here. He says straight up he’s not a savior, he doesn’t do prescriptions, he wants men to be their own self sustaining solutions rather than Rollo Tomassi success stories. The reason your grip on the principles slips is that you keep going back to the source for refills instead of running them in the field until they’re yours.

Quick housekeeping first. You’re in the wrong sub. r/askMRP is for married guys applying the sub’s toolkit to a marriage. You said you’re not married. The advice you’ll get here will be calibrated for guys with wives and 10 years of beta investment to undo. Different problem set. Steel’s Guide and the sub guidelines both spell out what MRP is and what askMRP is. Read those, then go where your actual problem lives. TRP for unmarried game theory, or honestly off Reddit entirely.

The thing under the thing.
You’re in a consumption loop, not a practice loop. You read RP. You feel the spark. You try one or two things. They don’t pay off in a week. You drift. You hit blackpill. You hit incel. You hit porn. You bounce back, find RP again, feel the sprk again. Repeat. Each cycle leaves you in roughly the same place because the cycle itself is the activity. You’re not building anything during it. The reading IS the work you’re doing instead of the work. Same trap as a guy who watches lifting YouTube for 3 hours a day and benches 135. He hasn’t forgotten the principles of strength training. He just hasn’t applied them long enough for them to become his body. You haven’t applied any of this long enough for it to become your character.

The 6 month commitment that actually changes you.
Forget the menu. Pick four things. Do only these for 6 months and let everything else fall away.

Lift. Squat, deadlift, bench, overhead press, row. Three or four times a week. Starting Strength by Rippetoe is the manual. Don’t read three more lifting books before you start. Read that one and start.

Eat. Track calories for 30 days, not guesstimate. Protein at 1 gram per pound of target bodyweight. The belly comes off in the kitchen, not the gym. If you’re lifting and still have a belly, you’re eating too much. That’s the entire diagnosis. There’s no other one.

One skill that isn’t women. Music, combat sport, climbing, business side project, code, language, anything where you can measure 6 months of practice and see growth. You need a room where you have authority. Right now you have authority in zero rooms. That’s the inceldom feeling. The cure is competence, not pussy.

No porn. No app dating. No RP browsing more than 30 minutes a week. All three are the same loop in different clothes. Each one gives you the dopamine hit of romantic or sexual progress without any of the actual movement. You already killed porn. Kill the other two for 90 days minimum.

That’s it. Four lines. Six months. If you do that and report back you will be a different person and you will have actual data to ask questions from. If you do 30% of it for 3 weeks you’ll be back here writing a similar post and asking similar questions in 4 months. That’s the median outcome and it’s a real one. Most guys don’t do the 6 months. The ones who do almost never end up where you are now.

Now the 5 questions. Tight answers.
Looks matter. Yes. They’re the entry ticket. Clean haircut, beard groomed, clothes that fit, low body fat, posture. That’s the floor. Above the floor the returns drop fast and frame plus lifestyle take over. You don’t need model tier. You need the floor.

Instagram for dating. No. It’s a vanity metric trap that pays you in views and likes so you keep posting and don’t notice you have zero closes. 1000 views and 3 comments is the platform working as designed. Get off it for dating. Use it as a portfolio of a life worth following only if you ever build that life.

Closing numbers in online dating. Wrong question. Online dating is brutal for guys not already in the top SMV tier because the apps are built to monetize hope. Right question is how do you become the high value guy in a real room. Answer is the 6 month commitment above. Numbers close themselves in the room where you’re already the guy.

Losing belly fat. Eat fewer calories than you burn. Hit protein. Compound lifts. Sleep 7 to 9 hours. Cardio is a tool not the lever. That’s the whole answer. Nobody knows another way because there isn’t one.

Accepting she has better options. Don’t accept it as fixed. That’s a low SMV equilibrium dressed up as wisdom. Hypergamy is real. Her options are real. So is the fact that you can change tier. Move yourself, don’t accept the floor. The acceptance you’re looking for is acceptance that the work is what changes the math, not acceptance that the math is set.

One mirror question to leave with.
You wrote this post hoping someone would tell you something you don’t already know. There’s nothing in this reply or the sidebar or Rollo’s books that you don’t already have access to. The thing you don’t have is 6 months of consistent action behind any of it. So the real question isn’t how to remember the principles. The real question is what specifically are you going to do today, this week, in the next 30 days, that you weren’t already doing. If you can’t answer that out loud in two sentences without hedging, the post was fingerfucking. If you can, post the answer back here as a comment and then go do it.

Reading list.Read once. Then stop reading and go work.

Rational Male Vol 1. No More Mr Nice Guy by Glover. Starting Strength by Rippetoe. The Way of the Superior Man by Deida.

Six months. Four things. One skill. Maybe you’ll report back with a result.

AlchemistXX · 2026-05-25T17:11:27+00:00

Your cure is repetition

BoringAndSucks · 2026-05-21T20:32:12+00:00

Typical betches from TRP. Completely attached to the externals like a woman is much easier than doing the internal work.

Even your questions sucks as you.

Title	How do you remember the principles and not forget or lose grip on them?
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Date	May 21, 2026 7:52 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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