Hi,

I'm getting better at planning stuff and generally taking initiative and being in charge. One problem that I'm having ist that I don't really know how to handle couples where the wife is taking charge of everything (and usually does so not very good).

I can mitigate some problems like poor planning on her part by taking charge of the planning (that part is easy).

But what I'm unsure of is with whom do I coordinate in advance or during an activity? It feels wrong to not coordinate with the man, but if I coordinate with the man it will usually not lead to the desired result, while if I coordinate e.g. logistics with the woman it works out.

How do you handle those situations?