Hi guys, non-native speaker here. pardon my errors:

about me: am self emplyed, 6'1, 185 pounds, 33 (she's is 34) working out 5x5, generally doing okay, generally following red pill advice. Married a lot of years.

Here is my question. The advice I follow is usually: "Never look at her words, look at her actions."

And anytime she's telling me how much she loves me (which happens a lot in recent times for whatever reason), or messages me how great and sexy and blabla I am, I usually don't respond except for a thanks and continue with what I was doing.

If she asks me, why I am distant I usually tell her, that I'll always watching her actions instead, so I it appreciate wheenver she opens her vagina for me. Good sex. Not too often, but it's initiated from her side often.

Recently though she is very distant. She behaves in a way I don't like. While normally I would plan something socially with friends for everybody to hang out, things have changed since her younger sister moved to our location.

Anytime she spends time with her, she's excluding me from the "group". I haven't pushed the situation, because ultimately I don't really care, but it happens that I helped this recently moved couple, because borther-in-law asked me to, f.e. helped my brother-in-law land good paying job, helped with some bureucratic stuff since he doesn't speak the language at all and some other more serious stuff I can't get into, because they are too specific.

Anyway. I kind of find it disrespectful, that she is excluding me, but expect me to provide services to her sister and sisters husband. Thus my reasonable logical follow is to stop any assistance and let them work everything out alone, until they learn some respect.

Now I wonder what I should do with the disrespectful behaviour of my wife. Could bad behaviour ever be be rationalized and accepted? Should I push for good behaviour? And it only happens when she is around her sister. Could it be becausee a long time ago, she caught me having a lot of nudes from her sister? It's a long time ago and I don't find her attractive anymore, but she still perceives nudes as cheating, which I would perceive the same.

What do?