A GF with plates on the side, erm help?

Archwinger · 2017-01-04T14:28:15+00:00

So...this girl has effectively told you:

"I want you to stop having sex with other women. But I don't want to be in a relationship with you just yet, because I'm not sure I can trust you yet. But you still need to stop seeing other women."

What is this bullshit? Does she want you to give up your other women but still slip up and "accidentally" get some side-dick herself and say, "Tee hee. Oops, but we're not in a relationship so it's not as bad."

You're either exclusive (relationship) or you're not (no relationship). The part where you say "Durrr...ur my g/f!" isn't what makes it a "relationship". The relationship part is when you're exclusive.

saladon · Wed Jan 4 14:19:15 2017 UTC

Don't assume that a girl who's obsessed with making you be exclusive doesn't have a posse of plates or backups herself.

Diaboliko12 · 2017-01-04T13:07:42+00:00

If she is 'relationship worthy aka gf-material', then why do you have a problem with being exclusive?

how to lock down the first girl and have her say she wants to get in a serious relationship w/me or infatuated with me

She will not say or act like this when her comfort levels are too low. It's not a crime to mix in some beta every once in a while

mrpthrowa · 2017-01-04T15:04:33+00:00

This post looks like it was written by a girl. Lots of feels and indecisiveness.

harkrank · Wed Jan 4 18:10:46 2017 UTC

You are being manipulated.

The definition of a relationship is that you are exclusive. If she's asking for you to be exclusive it is the same thing as asking for a relationship. The difference is zero. If decide to be exclusive with her you will be in a de-facto relationship.

So why is she asking for you to be exclusive, but wants to take it slow with the "relationship" (whatever that is at such a point?).

The answer is because she wants to keep your exclusivity a secret to other people so she doesn't limit her options for sex with other men.

Keep her as a plate, check your oneitis.

HootieMane · 2017-01-04T15:30:57+00:00

I'm about a month in and still can't get over how many women are cheating. What the fuck.

Lice138 · 2017-01-04T16:43:23+00:00

Make up your mind, get in a relationship and stop seeing the other girls or keep doing what you are doing.

KumonRoguing · 2017-01-04T17:57:20+00:00

Giving up plates for one female is the answer only 1% of the time. This girl isn't a 1% girl or she'd never had asked.

desno · 2017-01-04T18:45:09+00:00

I would tell her something along the lines of "I'm disappointed that you feel this way.. I thought we had a good thing going between us. I'd rather get to that point organically, like we have been doing"

Kind of ripped off from GLL, it's a solid guide for maintaining plates in general.

jeezydasnowman · 2017-01-04T18:47:14+00:00

Tell her you can't be exclusive but won't play without her.

FreshTits · 2017-01-04T19:34:04+00:00

Why does she have to say it to you first? Why can't you be the one to bring it up? You want exclusivity too then ask her.

gucc15 · 2017-01-04T20:46:51+00:00

Question- how did you manage to get those two plates with bfs?

vorverk · 2017-01-04T13:10:30+00:00

Marry her.

TRIICT · 2017-01-04T16:01:24+00:00

Lie to her and continue spinning plates.

Start aggressively increasing you SMV to put pressure on her.

Title	A GF with plates on the side, erm help?
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Date	January 4, 2017 12:17 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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