[Advice] How do I know if she's worthwhile committing to?

McVaghunter · 2018-01-18T09:55:03+00:00

she's 30
She's a 8/10
she has a low partner count (<2)

To tell me that a post wall woman is an 8/10 is one thing, but to fucking dare tell me that a woman has slept with only two guys during 14 years since she was 16, one fucking guy every 7 years, is... is... Oh God, I think I just had an aneurysm... I'm dying, your fucking stupidity has killed me. My goddamn dog is gonna be homeless, are you fucking happy?

h0ndaboy · 2018-01-18T07:26:17+00:00

Lmao we cant answer that for you

MrBowlfish · 2018-01-18T08:09:36+00:00

First of all, an n-count of 2 is a little suspicious. Men generally get a rounded down number. Occasionally you will get the real deal if you have acted very open minded and NON-judgmental all the way up to her revealing her number. If you ever revealed any hang ups about n-count before she gave you the #, it's probably a lie.

Aside from that, look for good family ties, respect for her father and men in general, low n-count, lack of tattoos, lack of regular curse words, and in my opinion religious girls tend to be better bets. Some college education is good too, though I wouldn't go for the professional students. No history of cheating. She must have a conscience, a distaste for lying. You want someone who feels some moral obligation to be a good person.

Docbear64 · 2018-01-18T08:43:32+00:00

You're doing a lot of math here to get to a definite answer and the truth of the matter is we don't know you , we don't know her, and we can't tell the future .

You're your own man and marriage /commitment/ whatever is a decision you should make and be comfortable with . The questions I feel like you should ask are do you feel like you have given her enough time to know her ? What would a woman have to be / do to deserve your commitment and does she do that? What aspects of her personality/ your relationship are you unhappy with and can those be improved? what are your reservations against commitment ? Why is she still single at 30 ?

After you've answered these questions and made a decision understand that 3 years from now whether you stick with her or not you may regret your decision and that's just life. However if you can say that you evaluated everything , gave everything enough time to come to a decision you were comfortable with ( and not rushing into out of convenience) , then even if shit doesn't work out how you'd like you can hang your head on the fact you did the best you could with the knowledge and understanding you had.

vandaalen · 2018-01-18T08:28:31+00:00

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fnordsnord · 2018-01-18T16:05:14+00:00

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throwawayMF1988 · 2018-01-18T13:02:26+00:00

Not if she's 30. Low partner count is most probably a lie.

h0ndaboy · 2018-01-18T13:22:14+00:00

Committed, depends on the context really. Married, NEVER (and no not never say never). LTR, depends. What traits does a girl have that YOU(not your bro) can deal with. When you muster up that, you'll know if she's worth it.

quicklogaccount · 2018-01-18T16:13:51+00:00

mmm. You're paying attention to all you can. Environment and morals. There aren't many more markers. But chances are she's broken on some aspects, maybe deep guilt about sex.

There's some shit worth pointing out. Women with low counts have objectively better pussies because their pussies are rare, but since every woman in the planet has a pussy, you'll get better on that front by getting more pussies instead of just one. You know, living your hardwired polygamy.
They also might be better because they MIGHT be more tame due to lack of abundance. MIGHT. 8s probably don't lack it though.

Now, whether her tameness (how much she challenges your frame) is crucial for you is more about you and whether you're up for keeping good frame and frequent quality poundings or not.

The way I see your point, you're 27. Locking a self repressed woman is tempting and has its benefits, but with a bit more of time time and experience you'll strengthen your frame and capacity to handle women altogether, and it won't matter a lot for you whether your partner is exceptionally tame or not. You'll just pick the best one.

I went through a very similar process after dumping my ex. I idealized and would make a move on a low count and tame childhood friend of mine, in around one year I ended up changing my mind to a hotter, younger and more challenging chick. No idea if it was good idea though, I might have gone too far.

beefthathasredmiddle · 2018-01-18T07:52:33+00:00

The way I understand it is, your commitment is based on her behavior. Good behavior = more commitment bad behavior = less commitment. Marriage doesn't allow you to take steps back as easily.

So, it's up to you. Time will always tell, so if you are unsure about things, keep waiting.

justshootinblanks · 2018-01-18T09:42:34+00:00

Does she come with a debt free house, trust fund and dowry?

Soderbergh · 2018-01-18T13:38:19+00:00

You sound like a smart guy. So let me tell you that if she’s 30 years old, her partner count can in fact be 2 esp in a more traditional country like Greece. But because she’s hot it’s probably not true. The answer is more likely 4 or 5. She’s not counting some guys probably.

But anyway this is actually not even too much of a problem. Even if it’s 4 it’s not a big deal breaker since every girl lies about this.

The problem is that since you are coming here to ask us this question it means you’re not fully sold on her.

So you’re a 27 man and you are worried about making a mistake about her.

Every friend of mine who was in this same situation at your age has has the relationship go bad.

I don’t know exactly why, but it was almost like these friends were trying to convince themselves.

I think there is a girl out there who wouldn’t have you coming to TRP wondering about her.

I wouldn’t ditch this woman but also I would start looking at other girls. After that if you’re still convinced Appolonia is the one then go for it :)

Btw, just because she’s a little older shouldn’t matter that much as long as she actually has the maturity of 30.

Title	[Advice] How do I know if she's worthwhile committing to?
Author	tuyguy
Upvotes	2
Comments	19
Date	January 18, 2018 7:20 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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