To keep it short, lately LTR is the type of person that never really initiates sex. I am the one always seducing her. Needless to say, sometimes I am successful and we have sex, and sometimes she turns me down (reasons: her period, not in the mood, not enough time, etc), and when she turns me down it's a huge blow to my ego. When she accepts sex is pretty good an interactive, no starfish sex. When she doesn't, I don't usually let her see that it affects me, as that would be beta, I just remain playful and unfazed.

However, lately she has been turning me down more often than not, and it's kind of getting to me. We're both early 20s so this is the time we should be fucking like rabbits, not getting maintenance sex (which is what I sometimes feel like).

Onto the overreacting point: Yesterday I was driving her home and they played an ad on the radio about "consent before sex". Some catchy ad about the best thing to have for sex is consent. Anyways, when I'm dropping her off home and leaving we start making out, and I go to kiss her neck (not trying to escalate, I just like kissing her neck and she knows this). She pulls back a little, so I playfully try to kiss the other side, and then she says something like (don't remember verbatim but close to):

Do you need me to play that consent ad again?

I usually don't let shit faze me but that consent/rapist shit kinda just hit me hard and I just said "bye" got in my car and left. I still can't believe it hit me that hard. Anyways, as I am driving home we text:

Her: Text me when you get home yeah?

Me: I do not consent for you to know when I arrive home.

Her: sigh emoji

Her: I was joking apparently you can't take a joke.

Her: But I don't need your consent for that.

That was last night. I still haven't replied to her since.

  • Did I handle that well?
  • Or was this a shit test I totally failed?
  • What should I reply to her?
  • Or should I just leave that hamster spinning until she hits me up again?

I feel like it was a shit test I totally failed but it just rubbed me the wrong way so bad, I usually can pass these just not this time.

UPDATE: So I had not texted her all day and she decided to text me. She just got a new job and texted me her schedule and then said "I need to talk to you". The rest went like this:

Me: Go ahead.

Her: In Person.

Me: I can see you after I go to the gym.

Her: Like at 5 or 6?

Me: At 6.

Her: I was thinking maybe later like at 8 or something.

Me: Even better I'll be there at 9. (I said 9 because I didn't want to step into her frame, so I pushed back even further.)

I feel like she set up the meeting at night to initiate some sort of make up sex? Is this her attempt at keeping her beta bux boyfriend happy?

Or maybe, she's calling me over to break up with me?

I'm ready for either one. She turned me off so much that I don't care if she dumps me tonight or not. I don't care about being the dumper or dumpee. If it's sex she wants to offer... I don't know if I should give it to her... I'm thinking about denying her sex to show her I don't need it... thoughts?

UPDATE 2: Went over and talked for over 3 hours. She apologized about the comment. Then first she said she's trying to follow church and that it's wrong to have sex. Then she said she has given her body to guys in the past and it never led anywhere so she doesn't want to do the same mistake. Then she revealed to me she was abused by her step father when she was 5 until 10, for 5 years. And that's why she feels a bit defensive when having sex. I know the abuse part is true, I just don't know why it's triggered with me and not with her exs. Part of me feels like she just started throwing shit at a wall until something stuck. We ended up saying we will try to work things out and I will be a little less physical unless she asks for it. I just feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick and what I am doing is not redpill at all. Watch what she does not what she says... and I feel like her actions are louder than her words.