Can someone explain how ghosting is supposed to help your situations with women?

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2017-02-02T20:25:15+00:00

Because the more you invest in a woman, the more you will push her away.

Ghosting resets the scales. Women want to do the chasing, she hates when guys do it. When guys chase her she will run away. Ghosting allows her to stop, catch her breath, and regroup. If you are always available to her she will always be on the run. Ghosting is you sending a message that you give zero fucks, have other options, and aren't a thirsty desperate chump.

redolas · 2017-02-02T21:14:07+00:00

Actually, if they don't already think of you, ghosting doesn't work. I can ghost the shit out of Jenna Jameson, the bitch just refuses to think of me.

Just talk to the girl when you feel like it, not when she wants you to. Just make sure you understand what you want, as opposed what your bluepill self thinks you "need" to do right now.

jttjt · 2017-02-02T20:54:21+00:00

"They don’t want what they can have." - Patrice O'Neal

like u/RedditAdminsSuck_88 said if you invest in a woman too much she will push away because she knows she has you and that isn't attractive. If you ghost her she will start thinking she doesn't have you and thus she will be more likely to want you

creating_my_life · 2017-02-02T21:29:03+00:00

Ghosting doesn't help you with a woman.

Ghosting helps you with women.

raisins3142 · 2017-02-02T21:51:53+00:00

It helps your self respect.

Mr-Ed209 · 2017-02-03T01:17:56+00:00

Ghosting works crazily well if they are into you. It's actually incredible how well it works and was one of the depressing reality checks that made me go TRP.

Example - back in my BP days I got caught in a texting everyday cycle with a girl i'd met. Distance was an issue, and she kept bringing up the idea of a meet up then changing the subject once plans started to get made. Finally after about 2 weeks I worked up some balls and asked her if she was ever going to visit. Got some excuse about her being 'broke' then she changed the subject and asked some irrelevant random question. Even in my BP mindset I was wise to her 'playing games'. I hit her with a 'whatever' and mentally acknowledged she wasn't interested and was ready to move on.

Cue the next day... Her - 'hey this weather is gross are you guys getting this up north' Me - IGNORED
And the day after that... 'omg I just saw this, totally reminded me of...' Me - IGNORED
Third day... Her - Heyy are you free wednesday i'm thinking of travelling up!

This short experience I think sums up everything about TRP and 'dread' game etc. This girl was clearly interested, she initiated texting me every day. So why would she make it so difficult to actually meet up in person. Fuck I wish TRP wasn't true at times and you could just hang out honestly with women in an adult manner. But every experience i've ever had of being 'nice' and to the point with girls gets met with hesitancy and flaking. Act like they are below you and they will seemingly drive 3 hours to visit you when they are 'broke'.

Archwinger · 2017-02-03T04:43:19+00:00

Ghosting keeps you from driving away women that are into you, and from wasting your time on women who aren't.

Kalepsis · 2017-02-03T07:28:25+00:00

Some might disagree with me, but this is my personal take on the subject:

Ghosting is not for her. It's for you. You need to develop the mindset that there are billions of women out there, and Ghosting is an exercise in self-control. It's a oneitis insurance plan that steers you further toward a healthy abundance mentality, which is absolutely necessary to have.

MattyAnon · 2017-02-03T12:36:20+00:00

Ghosting saves you time to work on better options.

It doesn't really help make women interested, although not answering too quickly can.

imperialclassdestroy · 2017-02-03T01:12:12+00:00

Ghosting is basically playing hard to get, except that you genuinely couldn't give a shit if she likes you or not. It doesn't mean be some weirdo who leaves the room when she comes in or be a dick to her if she says anything to you. Be cool, be natural, but show her you don't need her. In every relationship one person needs the other more than they need them. It's a sad fact of reality, and therefore in any kind of relationship, including plates or LTRs, you're either needing her more or she needs you more. Ghosting is a way to show that she will need you more, and she'll want you more because of it. If she's interested, of course. If she's not, she won't care one way or the other. Don't make a plan out of ghosting random women or those who have made it obvious they're not into you at all. You'll just look dumb.

casemodsalt · 2017-02-04T03:59:00+00:00

the trick is to not actually care in the first place.

have that mentality that she has to impress you. a first date is her opportunity for this.

Title	Can someone explain how ghosting is supposed to help your situations with women?
Author	NeedRPadvice
Upvotes	13
Comments	19
Date	February 2, 2017 8:15 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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