Can’t function sober, never could my entire life. Only when I drink do I become competent and motivated to do things.. how the fuck do I do this shit?

themostgianthorse · 2021-03-15T01:15:12+00:00

You need to get to the root of your problem. Alcohol is the effect. The cause is likely low self esteem/anxiety/depression.

Quitting drinking will not solve your problem but it will facilitate the necessary conditions for you to have a clear head to do the work.

MrNeverDryDick · 2021-03-15T01:05:33+00:00

You’re an alcoholic. Go to the alcoholic sub

Musicgoon · 2021-03-15T01:17:50+00:00

Fix your drinking problem then tackle other things once that's under control.

LoverRomeox · 2021-03-15T02:22:15+00:00

Your dopamine receptors are messed up. Drinking boosts your dopamine enough to allow you to cross the threshold needed to be motivated and take action. Either this is the result of long-term down regulation due to substance abuse or you naturally have low dopamine levels thus must either get on medication or improve your lifestyle, diet, exercise, stress management, sleep etc and boost dopamine naturally.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2021-03-16T23:19:42+00:00

I hear you, brother. I think I can understand what you're going through.

Can't function sober.

Facts are you can function as well sober as you can function drunk. So the issue seems to be you just feel like if you drink then you don't have to care. You believe you can let go of enotional distress, the same, the anger, and guilt, at least temporarily.

You feel that when you drink you can let go of whatever the guilt or shame narratives you have are, and relax.

A lot of people use positive relationships in their life for that such as their family, LTR's, close friends for that. But you may have had a role model such as a parent who was also an alcoholic and modelled self-pity and self-limiting behaviors and narratives in front of you. So I think a lot of ploblem drinkers conflate alcohol with the safety of friends and family whom they can be themselves around. Your own family may have bern toxic and less than accepting or trustworthy towards you.

Never could my entire life.

Except the times that you did.

Up until you hit some kind of conflict or life crisis which happens from time to time. Then you started panicking, began circling and fell off the horse.

The cause of your lack of functioning is your addiction. It may also be ignorance about other coping skills to deal with a crisis, stress or loss aside from the mother's tit that is alcohol.

So the question isn't "how am I supposed to function sober?" The question is, what are some ways I can cope during those times when a major life even makes me feel like I'm about fall out of my seat, and when it feels like the walls are about to collapse on me? How can I deal with high-conflict situations?

The first thing you need you do is ask a higher power for help. Doesn't matter what your higher power is. It can be the universe a large, it can be a god or gods. It can be Mother Nature. Doesn't matter.

You need to recognize that you can't stop then walks from collapsing in and your can't stop yourself from falling off the the horse. But the universe can help you if you ask for it.

Title	Can’t function sober, never could my entire life. Only when I drink do I become competent and motivated to do things.. how the fuck do I do this shit?
Author	drugsbeatsex
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	March 15, 2021 12:54 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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