Can't keep erection during penetration

cenie · 2018-09-08T03:09:54+00:00

Sounds like its all mental. Perhaps youre putting too much pressure on yourself.

TheBrokenRuler · 2018-09-08T03:33:01+00:00

When I first started picking up chicks (keep in mind I'm no expert, I still post on asktrp, but I have relevant experience) I would have trouble staying hard- it was all mental, I was just stressed out by trying to fuck in a) unfamiliar locations b)unfamiliar holes (aka women) c)thinking I had to impress them

For the 'unfamiliar locations', I would go to a chick's apartment in a new part of the city and be nervous not knowing who else lived there etc, and the idea someone might bust in or whatever really put me off. Like I was horny, but my body was in fight or flight, not relaxed enough for a fuck. So I remedied this by doing what pornstars do to maintain erections for scenes they don't like etc- which is basically set a trigger for popping an erection in a meditative state. Basically put yourself in a relaxed state of mind in meditation, get a boner, then put a particular trigger in place (I would scratch my arm repetitively for like 15 seconds). Then when I'm with a chick, do a quick mini-meditation and pull the trigger- it began to work with some practice.

Or you could just smoke weed to learn to chill, that's not my kind of thing but some folks do it and it works for them.

The other two came down to just practice, the first technique carries over and it helps when you've done it lots.

Random_throwaway_000 · 2018-09-08T03:46:02+00:00

Is this all with one girl? If so, well...

zop2 · 2018-09-08T03:27:29+00:00

Hate to break it to you, but you're gay.

trashcatcher489 · 2018-09-08T15:36:25+00:00

I think your problem is concentration. Like you and others have said, it seems to be all mental. You're thinking about other things, about your potential failure, about being less of a man. All that takes away from the relatively mindless rush of sex.

There have been a number of posts lately on meditation. I highly suggest you start meditating once or twice a day. Just for 10-15 minutes at a time. You already work out your body, so see this as the next step of working out your mind, and look at it just as important as lifting.

It won't be fast, but it will help.

As someone else mentioned, you should also do more research into a meaty diet and erectile dysfunction. Clogged arteries = worse blood flow. Getting more plants in your diet has been shown in some cases to help ED a lot.

Good luck.

BuckNekkid18 · 2018-09-08T09:09:18+00:00

No fap is the answer for you. I had a couple ED/DE stuff going one when I was jerking off to porn every day.

Psychological_Radish · 2018-09-08T03:10:20+00:00

I think we need some more diagnostics here. Are you actually attracted to these girls that you're trying to fuck? This is why I don't even mess with any girl under HB7. I just don't get hard at the prospect of sex with flabby/ugly chicks.

Maybe you could benefit from more foreplay. Kissing, teasing, etc. Different position, perhaps? I often get soft when I'm literally out of breath from wrecking her pussy full force, so I have her get on top.

-Mavs · 2018-09-08T02:55:18+00:00

You tried everything everyone online is going to suggest.

Don't they have therapists for things like this?

volvostupidshit · 2018-09-08T03:34:57+00:00

Have you tried proper breathing techniques? If all else fails, I think going at it with another man is the only option.

Beardy26 · 2018-09-14T19:07:17+00:00

Go to the doctor. If this is not something that was normal for you, something else is going on with you physically. Have Some blood work done. If your blood work comes back perfect then it truly is all mental. Are you under a lot of stress at work/your relationship?

2018-09-08T05:28:40+00:00

I'm not sure if this will help you but it sounds like you better try everything https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4ECnqXQpDA&t=3s

saturnsballs · 2018-09-08T05:50:00+00:00

Try one or all of these: citrulline malate, maca root, niacin, stay very well hydrated, lay off caffeine for a bit, cardio especially high intensity intervals, and meditation or a physical or nonemotional intellectual task that requires intense focus so your amygdala can take a break. Make sure you're not undernourished, check your calorie intake and get enough fat and cholesterol in your diet, this is required for hormone production. And you must get good sleep, this is crucial for hormone balance.

I once had a similar issue due to feeling nervous, but I was also overtraining for my calorie intake at the time. I ate more, started taking the citrulline and maca which definitely helped, and got over the nervousness by taking the dominant role in the relationship, had no more issues with it. I have also found caffeine can cause limp dick if I have too much. The mind and body aren't always separate.

saturnsballs · 2018-09-08T05:50:27+00:00

Try one or all of these: citrulline malate, maca root, niacin, stay very well hydrated, lay off caffeine for a bit, cardio especially high intensity intervals, and meditation or a physical or nonemotional intellectual task that requires intense focus so your amygdala can take a break. Make sure you're not undernourished, check your calorie intake and get enough fat and cholesterol in your diet, this is required for hormone production. And you must get good sleep, this is crucial for hormone balance.

I once had a similar issue due to feeling nervous, but I was also overtraining for my calorie intake at the time. I ate more, started taking the citrulline and maca which definitely helped, and got over the nervousness by taking the dominant role in the relationship, had no more issues with it. I have also found caffeine can cause limp dick if I have too much. The mind and body aren't always separate.

saturnsballs · 2018-09-08T05:50:45+00:00

Try one or all of these: citrulline malate, maca root, niacin, stay very well hydrated, lay off caffeine for a bit, cardio especially high intensity intervals, and meditation or a physical or nonemotional intellectual task that requires intense focus so your amygdala can take a break. Make sure you're not undernourished, check your calorie intake and get enough fat and cholesterol in your diet, this is required for hormone production. And you must get good sleep, this is crucial for hormone balance.

I once had a similar issue due to feeling nervous, but I was also overtraining for my calorie intake at the time. I ate more, started taking the citrulline and maca which definitely helped, and got over the nervousness by taking the dominant role in the relationship, had no more issues with it. I have also found caffeine can cause limp dick if I have too much. The mind and body aren't always separate.

saturnsballs · 2018-09-08T05:51:42+00:00

Try one or all of these: citrulline malate, maca root, niacin, stay very well hydrated, lay off caffeine for a bit, cardio especially high intensity intervals, and meditation or a physical or nonemotional intellectual task that requires intense focus so your amygdala can take a break. Make sure you're not undernourished, check your calorie intake and get enough fat and cholesterol in your diet, this is required for hormone production. And you must get good sleep, this is crucial for hormone balance.

I once had a similar issue due to feeling nervous, but I was also overtraining for my calorie intake at the time. I ate more, started taking the citrulline and maca which definitely helped, and got over the nervousness by taking the dominant role in the relationship, had no more issues with it. I have also found caffeine can cause limp dick if I have too much. The mind and body aren't always separate.

Title	Can't keep erection during penetration
Author	thesmithofwords
Upvotes	4
Comments	22
Date	September 8, 2018 2:33 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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