tl;dr, tl;wr - Single for ~6 months after divorce. Caught feelings for girl. She has feelings as well, but wants to be single/date other people. Kinda hurt. Focusing on myself. Still playing dreadish game with her. Need advice.

Hello all, I'm in need of advice. I am a recently divorced 30 year old male. I've been doing my own thing with great success from November of last year until this June. I worked as a bouncer at a strip club on the side from my own job. I learned alot. I had a ton of beautiful women around me all the time...most of them fucked up in the head, but I tried not to mess with them too much. Point is, is that I definitely got mine over that time period.

Then I met a normal girl(She's 26). At a bonfire. We clicked and it was like fireworks...for both of us. She had very very recently been left by her boyfriend, and I am still fairly fresh out of my marriage. We stayed up for 13 hours the first night we met. Heavy escalation, k-close, mutual respect...the whole 9. She told me she wasn't looking for anything serious off of the get go. I respected that.

Time passes, we become very close, very intimate, and it feels more and more like a relationship. We both seem fairly happy with where we're at...but we're both holding back because we know that there can't be a label put on it, because it's not what she wants, and while I'm cool with that, it's starting to feel like exactly what I want. I maintain, and I don't push the issue. I'm happy with what we do have. We're together every day, amazing sex fairly often, and we go out quite a bit. Her family is in love with me(not sure how I feel about that), and she has said that she has strong feelings for me...falling for me I guess...but it's always followed by a justification saying that this(a relationship) isn't what she wants.

Fast forward to last week. I left for the weekend, and she had an epiphone while I was away. I come back and she doesn't want to be close, doesn't want to be intimate, ignores my texts/phone calls...all of it. I finally got her to come out and admit what was going on, and she straight up just tells me that she wants to be single, and go out and have dates, and that what we had was too much like a relationship. I can't be mad at her remember, she was honest with me from day one about it. I'm obviously a bit taken aback by this, as we had grown close in so many ways. She wants to "stay friends", but that just might be her way of feeling better about this whole thing...she's definitely not been much of a friend over the last 8-9 days. Which I mean, I suppose I understand, I know she still has feelings for my dumbass, maybe it's hard for her to be around me? Maybe that's a way to let them fade? (I can't come up with a justification that makes 100% sense...stupid male hamster.)

We share the same circle of friends. I see her a few times a week minimum. She brought some random guy with her out this weekend...made sure she locked face with him right in front of me a few times during the night. Felt bad man. I'm not sure what to do about it. On one hand I am focusing on myself a ton lately...gym gainz, eating better(Down 10 lbs in just a few weeks...wooo!), and more or less trying to stay focused on work and other friends. It's just so hard knowing that I caught feelings for this girl...knowing that I'm going to end up seeing her again next time I go out.

I did make a plan for the next time I do go out though. I'm friends with some very attractive women. I told them more or less that I want them to come up and be my dates for the night. That way I get the best of both worlds. I get to be surrounded by beautiful women all night(maybe even kick it off with a couple of them), and she gets to see me not giving a god damn fuck about what she's done to me...even though it's eating me up inside.