Caught with TRM

mrpthrowa · 2019-02-18T12:52:41+00:00

Ignore that shit all together. Pretend this whole thing did not happen. Treat anything she says about that as a shit test.

You are likely making much more of a deal about it than she is. If anything she might just go crazy about you if you hold frame.

The fuck do you have to cover/next for?

atticusfinch1973 · 2019-02-18T13:26:58+00:00

Easiest shit test in the world. Ask her if she needs you to spell out the big words for her.

It's like you think you got caught doing something bad, you need to change your frame to the fact you're doing something to better yourself and give zero fucks what anyone else thinks, especially a plate.

Nfuckedmeup · 2019-02-18T13:11:04+00:00

How fragile are you? It’s not a big deal.

iLLprincipLeS · 2019-02-18T13:04:08+00:00

Personality is malleable, in fact it’s so malleable we often don’t realize we’re forging a new one. In both of these instances I’ve described that shift in personality was not by my conscious choice. I knew what I wanted to do; even in the worst case scenario with my BPD my shift was prompted because I thought if I changed my personality her own psychosis would resolve itself. My Blue Pill conditioning exacerbated this because it always teaches men that any problem a woman has with a guy is due to his own lack of investment, support, sensitivity or not giving enough of themselves. This is a very damning aspect of the Blue Pill and it’s also one that guys will reinforce in themselves and with other men because they believe their sacrifices are what women appreciate.

Beneath all this was my Blue Pill subroutine manifesting itself. Hell, even when I was on top of my game in the Hollywood clubs I still wanted to find a ‘good girl’ to be my girlfriend. I had changed my personality to succeed in getting what I wanted, but my root programming was still Blue Pill. Many a famous PUA has come to the conundrum of trying to make his Blue Pill idealistic dreams come true because he learned how to reliably ‘get the girl’. Good Game doesn’t make a man Red Pill aware. It’s certainly the gateway to understanding women’s nature and the nature of intersexual dynamics, but killing the Beta is a long term project.

So how do you shift from Beta Nice Guy to Alpha Cad? These are euphemisms usually meant to disparage the whole idea of changing yourself into something better. Most people don’t have it within themselves to even have the insight to think they’d ever want to change their nature. It’s easier to trot out “Just be yourself” when someone has that introspect. People don’t want you to change. Your predictability gives them comfort. You’re an easy element to deal with so they think that if you act in some new way you’re not being authentic. You’re a wannabe, a poseur, and they need you to behave predictably because it gives them a sense of control over you. Others want to pigeonhole you. They want to categorize you into immutable personality types or astrological designations that make them feel better about dealing with you. Again, if they can categorize you, if they can make you believe they know the truth of it, you’re just that much easier to control. Humans have a need to see patterns in their environment. The world is a chaotic place so it comes natural to us to think we can set some kind of willful order on it.

Eventually, after I’d finally torn myself away from my BPD girlfriend I returned to that Alpha personality that had been so successful for me, only this time I had finally realized that I needed to make myself my Mental Point of Origin. I looked back on all the women I’d applied the Blue Pill set of rules, ideals, hopes and dreams with. I was 26 and had nothing to show for all the potential that people kept telling me I had. I had done everything according to the old set of books; I was supportive, kind, sensitive, uplifting and empowering to every woman I’d been in a relationship with because I thought that was what would make me desirable. But as I looked back on all of that I realized I had done so at the expense of myself – at the expense of my potential. That sacrifice will alwayslead a man to his own destruction. I thank God it didn’t lead to my own.

It was at this point in my life that I realized that I had to unfuck my life and that meant a radical reimagining of who I wanted to be going forward. I get asked a lot about how I became unplugged and my usual answer is that it was a gradual process. This is true, but it was at this point I had to reject all the lies and idealistic fantasies that I’d been raised to believe in; to invest my ego in. I made a point to spell out to guys in A New Hope that you will never achieve Blue Pill ideals with Red Pill awareness and this is where that comes from. Unplugging, killing the Beta, reinventing who you are is not only possible for you, but it’s necessary to sustain you in a life of your own imagining. This doesn’t happen just by reading a book or going to a seminar, ultimately you have to live it and internalize that new you. You have to do this in spite of friends who want you to be ‘authentic’ and stay the old you so you’ll be comfortable to them.

All of this takes time, persistence and introspection, but it starts with an act of will on your part. You will only get what you have gotten if you keep doing what you have done. I can teach you Game. I can teach you the habits that would make others believe you’re a self-sufficient Alpha success, but only you can change your authentic personality. This is where a lot of guys lose the trail when it comes to being Red Pill aware. They read my books, they open their eyes, but they don’t know what to do with the information. Rich Cooper once told me that reading The Rational Male was like drinking from a firehose. There’s a lot to digest and a lot to confront with regards to how that information shows you, convicts you, of how you lived your life up to this point. But what do you do with it? Knowing is half the battle, the other half is action. The other half is implementing that knowledge to your own advantage.

Ever since I started writing I’ve always referred to myself as a Lesser Alpha. Some people think that’s self-deprecating, others think I’m just a married Beta with delusions of Alpha. Whatever. Either way, I’m a guy who took this knowledge and applied it to serve my own best interests and forge a truly authentic personality based on what I understand of what we call the Red Pill. I created a me of my own volition based on a realistic understanding of intersexual dynamics, but also of a better understanding of myself in that Red Pill paradigm as a result of it.

So, who is the real you? Who decides what your real personality is and what is authentic for you? What is the estimate that your personality is based on? I get sick of hearing women and men talk about finding themselves. Women love the idea of a journey of self discovery. This is a fantasy of Blue Pill idealism meant to, again, keep one in a state of helplessness and hypoagency. Women use this garbage as a convenient rationale meant to excuse their past bad decisions.

Red Pill men don’t find themselves, they build themselves.

They forge themselves into a creation of their own choosing based on realistic assessments of themselves, their conditions and the world that challenges them not to build himself. I wrote this essay to encourage you, but also to warn you that this building takes time, and you will meet all manner of resistance to the masculine project that is you.

FereallyRed · 2019-02-18T13:33:03+00:00

It's only as big a deal as you make it out to be.

Get back in your frame, tiger.

ReformSociety · 2019-02-18T17:05:11+00:00

Why is she going through your desk drawer when you're not there?

Fuck that.

TRP8myfeels · 2019-02-18T14:22:36+00:00

gasp your reading an infamous book by a men's rights activist! It's almost like you want to be empowered as a man what a fucking ABOMINATION.

Just as typical as a woman reading some faminine shit. Srs

GGrub8 · 2019-02-18T13:55:54+00:00

Should have replied with "What if it was 50 shades of grey?".

Kpwn88 · 2019-02-18T18:24:52+00:00

When I was dating my wife she found my copy. Want to know what I did?

Nothing 😏

OrzhovPalatine · 2019-02-18T15:32:22+00:00

You slipped, we all do it. Now you recognize it, so adjust accordingly. Your old programming will come back from time to time, make sure you recognize it.

amwfhunter · 2019-02-18T16:20:17+00:00

I'd be like yeah it's a great read.

IvyExcess · 2019-02-18T19:24:02+00:00

I brought a copy of "the way of the superior man" on a college trip and other dudes saw it, I got the nickname "superior man" behind my back, but who was banging the hot blonde 9 on the trip the whole time? This guy. Own it.

someonesopinion6969 · 2019-02-18T18:05:16+00:00

who cares? are you a man or a faggot. it's a fucking book. a girl i was fucking last year was happy that i read sex god method. if it improves you, why does it even matter

Slut_Slayer9000 · 2019-02-20T18:29:30+00:00

Bruh if your "frame" is shot over someone poking fun at a book you have, you have no frame to begin with. Start there.

Title	Caught with TRM
Author	cbang65
Upvotes	8
Comments	23
Date	February 18, 2019 12:50 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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