Completely froze

tft646 · 2021-06-01T16:18:53+00:00

This reads like a 4chan greentext

JackTheRipper_17 · 2021-06-01T16:40:13+00:00

shorts shorts

vegan chicken

Hmmm....

IHaveSalesQuestions · 2021-06-01T16:32:45+00:00

Meditate so when that bullshit pops into your head you let it flow right through and keep your mental space clean and empty. Then you just go with it.

alaxoskl4 · 2021-06-01T16:41:24+00:00

Mental acrobacies
Willing to take risks
Horniness transformed to sexual moves (talking to that girl)

You need (among other) these three things to get to talk that girl. I got these 3 by doing SR, Meditation (mindfulness) and exercise.

Also, maybe if you're already doing exercise you are also doing meditation. Just keep it up and don't self shame. It was just a mistake, next time will be better.

i-am-the-prize · 2021-06-01T16:58:27+00:00

if you talk to all women, then talking to hot ones is easy. plus the 'pretty ones' are as insecure and neurotic as the normies. so read this: http://archive.is/iSEUR

IHaveSalesQuestions · 2021-06-01T17:04:55+00:00

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zino193 · 2021-06-01T19:22:49+00:00

Stop jacking it, go our and hang out with people. Different interest groups work well, dancing works best as after 2 hours of sweating, anything sounds chill and smooth.

MattyAnon · 2021-06-02T00:09:41+00:00

What can I do to stop freezing up? Or at least tell my mind to think about some other stuff?

Ok. You're over-planning and over-pressuring yourself.

"I'll go and say the perfect thing". But the perfect thing isn't perfect when you get there, and what would her reaction be? What if she isn't into it? Oh god this is an actual human being, and she's looking at me, what's she thinking?

Yeah, no. This is NOT how you approach women.

I was about to high-five her then tell her we’re gonna grab some vegan chicken

Way over doing it. You've not talked to her before. What if the high five misses? What if she doesn't understand the vegan chicken joke? (My experience is that women cannot understand this sort of thing at first).

Ok, here's your new plan:

Go do something near girl, IMMEDIATELY turn towards her somewhat and say "hello there" to her.

That's it. Wing it from there. No pressure. If she talks great. If she ignores you, just carry on....... but say "cheerio" when you leave.

If it goes well, great. If not, there are billions of other women. No pressure, do it, do less.

danaw1992 · 2021-06-01T19:26:34+00:00

Assert your dominance by just keep running around the gym and wait for her to join you

catz123456 · 2021-06-01T16:42:47+00:00

Another 9.5/10 , sure lol

Aubrey_D_Graham · 2021-06-02T00:18:39+00:00

Pull your dick out. That's vegan.

OneManufacturer6911 · 2021-06-01T15:52:08+00:00

NoFap

sauceyzaddy · 2021-06-01T21:21:05+00:00

I used to have approach anxiety and I still do to a certain extent but fuck it why not lmao at least fail horribly

Alexisonfire24 · 2021-06-01T19:44:05+00:00

Who talks like this?

DerekMorganBAU · 2021-06-01T20:56:34+00:00

"9.5" 🙄

UpperRedSide · 2021-06-01T21:14:37+00:00

If your shorts are at or below the knee you’re doing it wrong.

Anyway, the best of freeze. I mean, beginner or not, one day you’ll just be in the wrong head space and just completely blow it. Shit happens. Just don’t do it next time.

WeDontLetHateWin · 2021-06-02T00:19:35+00:00

Lol vegan chicken, first you should make the move right after you feel she is interested, and open intelligent conversation, let her talk more, and when you talk say something smart, it will naturally lead to a date.

yistomorrow · 2021-06-02T04:42:00+00:00

I like to use the gym as a catch and release playground.
It's my church and I go there for myself. I don't really like the thought of fucking women that I see daily there and having to deal with that while I'm still "learning" game.

If Approach anxiety is a thing, I'd say work more on day game and approaching women and people in general in your daily life. On your way to the store/ at the store/ on your way to work/ to the gym etc... Start small and approach 1 stranger every day.

One thing I like to use to get out of my head when approaching is bringing my awareness into my body. Focus on the breath, feel the weight of my feet on the ground, move one foot infront of the other, "hello"..... and then feel my way through the conversation. The more I do this the more accustomed to it I become, it then becomes natural and then I don't have to THINK about it as much and it is just WHAT I do. The conversation will flow more naturally also.

Title	Completely froze
Author	WeDontLetHateWin
Upvotes	30
Comments	39
Date	June 1, 2021 3:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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