Confronting girlfriend about guy whose name keeps popping up on her phone

eazy_ · 2020-11-08T14:22:05+00:00

That's not your girlfriend anymore.

Don't listen to what they say watch what they do. She is sending you a blatant message. She doesn't want confrontation and is telling you its over through her behavior.

Block on all channels never speak again.

Get a new girl.

ay-fuh-q · 2020-11-08T14:16:06+00:00

As one of many guys who has done this kind of confronting in the past, it will lead to nothing except lies, denial, gaslighting, and shaming you for even bringing it up. Yep, she could already being swallowing his cum, but she'll make sure you feel like an asshole for even suggesting such a thing.

The best move is to move on or, if you don't mind just plating her (she is plating you, after all), then you're good.

akihonj · 2020-11-08T10:38:48+00:00

This is a bitch way of asking why your now ex has somebody's number popping up on her phone.

Why are you worried, if she's getting other men and your not into sharing then it's really simple, either she stops and blocks him or she's free to see others and you are too and you two don't ever have contact again.

I'm really struggling to understand why walking away is so difficult for you.

It's like this, oh that number again, I assume you're talking to him.

She's going to come back with, oh he's just a friend and nothing to worry about

At which point you say no you're right I'm actually not worried because I'm done, I deserve better and it's never going to be you.

br0lock · 2020-11-08T10:24:50+00:00

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joshiemcswaggy · 2020-11-08T11:03:13+00:00

You should have better things to worry about, and other bitches lined up. So if she does cheat or you just aint javing it anymore you can just leave

whiteindia · 2020-11-08T18:07:11+00:00

My girlfriend is so fucking stupid.

Angry beta alert

This guy’s phone has been popping up on her phone a bunch of times

Red flag. Did you not set boundaries early in the relationship?

I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to ruin our day.

You got the “not saying anything” part right. The next step was you walking out the door.

Should I text her “who’s X?” Or ask her in person?

Lol, no. Ditch this bitch and read up so you don’t make the same mistakes. She is now your ex.

IKJ45FGH7 · 2020-11-08T17:42:10+00:00

I’d never put up with that shit

Men and women CANNOT be friends

IXseed · 2020-11-08T17:49:01+00:00

Prepare the exit strategy. She's not stupid. She's so blatant with her disrespect that she's doing it in front of you and doesn't even hide it. She may not even been cheating but just the fact that she's cool with doing this means she has 0 respect for you.

Pink_Hanna · 2020-11-08T12:05:45+00:00

OP, it should be your way or the highway.

yeeyee739 · 2020-11-08T18:26:05+00:00

Walk away and never look back amigo

TrpKid2 · 2020-11-08T09:12:56+00:00

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ngyuhnang · 2020-11-08T10:53:29+00:00

Probably it’s only you who think you two are exclusive, I’d say be prepared for her leaving and go game other girls

TrenWarrior · 2020-11-08T17:59:20+00:00

Drop her.... Theirs a reason why buddy is texting her... Don’t play yourself... Or run dread game.... Or ”mirror” her... Meaning text other bitches too.. Make sure she sees it.

Much love,

Tren.

smolzino · 2020-11-08T09:51:35+00:00

You should have asked when it popped up, so you could gauge her reaction. Now you should just keep it in mind and wait

br0lock · 2020-11-08T09:50:09+00:00

Should have asked right away, why hesitate ?

Ask as soon as possible, and then break up / demote her to plate.

curvedbymykind · 2020-11-08T18:21:46+00:00

Lmfao she’s cheating on you for sure.

pehsxten · 2020-11-08T21:16:44+00:00

What is this pussy shit doin on the red pill

throw-away-1709 · 2020-11-08T09:01:48+00:00

A - she fucks you good - why do you care

B - she not fucks you good - why do you care - you'll dump her anyway

C - you are paranoid overthinking beta oug of your frame

Select

Bungeeeeee · 2020-11-08T15:57:15+00:00

Dude, just get over it. It's going to hurt, but you need it. Otherwise you won't grow. I don't know how you got under the impression that you are ready for an ltr with "rp" dynamics and that she is ltr material. Build frame and learn frame control and balance of emotional investment, return to your purpose, spin plates for fun and vet better next time, especially in case of an ltr.

2020-11-08T16:03:53+00:00

It's okay to ruin the day. Who's the one tryna ruin the whole relationship...? Do you find it obvious that she's looking for validation? How is her social media? Full of pictures without you? Are you in em? If not then that tells you enough...

DumberThanIThink · 2020-11-08T20:01:03+00:00

Can it not be simply a friend who happens to be a guy? Wouldn’t it be excessively controlling to control your partner’s friends? I feel like treating your partner right and remaining attractive while doing so will ensure nothing more happens with the girl’s friends-unless the girls a whore.

Would love to hear counter points- I’m not trying to start any huge arguments here this is just my viewpoint

br0lock · 2020-11-08T21:26:33+00:00

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DerekMorganBAU · 2020-11-09T05:54:11+00:00

Go ahead and cheat

HurricaneHugues · 2020-11-09T11:52:14+00:00

The only stupid here is you. So stupid yay she didn't even bother try to hide anything from you because she knows you're stupid and won't do anything about it.

Meloxian · 2020-11-09T12:21:21+00:00

Don’t mateguard, why is she your girlfriend anyway? Did you vet?

If you’re so concerned just plate/drop her dude

Title	Confronting girlfriend about guy whose name keeps popping up on her phone
Author	br0lock
Upvotes	20
Comments	65
Date	November 8, 2020 8:56 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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