Dealing with disrespect

vorverk · 2016-11-25T13:44:34+00:00

Depends on the context, but indifference/dread works best in most cases.

Light or playful disrespects can be reacted like shit tests, so: jokes, agree and amplify, come back with witty insult etc...

But if family member insults you in front of everybody on thanksgiving dinner, then just ignore the motherfucker for the whole night. No reaction. If a friend disses you in front of girls he wants to impress, sip your drink slowly, walk away and have fun that evening without him.

It helps if your social skills are high enough and that you're doing that from abundance mentality. If you do it from scarcity mentality and you're acting insulted it could look butthurt.

THEMANWHOWASRIGHT · 2016-11-25T17:11:15+00:00

Old acquaintances will see you as you were, regardless of what you are.

New people allow you to be whatever you want to be, providing you can be what you want to be.

One way of overcoming your situation is to break contact with the old, and shape yourself with the new. To never allow them what you've allowed the others. This way, you'll establish a new threshold for respect.

However, were they once to see you treated with disrespect by an old acquaintance, they'll feel cheated and will think "if they can treat him poorly, why can't I?"

Keep these people apart and be what you want to be, and remember that it is always harder to alter habits than it is to forge new ones.

The other way, were you to keep old acquaintances, is to train them to treat you with respect from now on. This is difficult and takes a great deal more effort because in denying them this you're depriving them of the right to put someone down - a thing all enjoy to one extent or another - they will see it as their right.

You will undergo disrespect for refusing disrespect - "can't you take a joke?" Establish your boundaries and let none transgress them. If they do, punish them by ignoring them. If they do again, cease contact.

The new is always preferable to the old, because with the new you can be with more ease what you want to be, rather than what you are, or were.

SeaLionPrivilege · 2016-11-25T16:23:52+00:00

If disrespect seems to be so common in your life, it may be worth looking at why that's happening, starting by yourself.

Are you provoking this in any way? Do you give a very miserable or soft impression to people?

i_forget_my_userids · 2016-11-25T13:58:40+00:00

Respect is earned. You're not entitled to it from anyone.

redditatt · 2016-11-26T04:25:54+00:00

Don't underestimate the blank stare. Like you're looking through them

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2016-11-26T05:28:53+00:00

Give a dead level stare until they change the subject. (note, don't dress like a neckbeard/simp.)

If this doesn't work, roast them until they change subject.

Title	Dealing with disrespect
Author	princeali97
Upvotes	18
Comments	12
Date	November 25, 2016 8:18 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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