Did I pass or fail?

notevenatthestart · 2015-10-21T13:44:08+00:00

She messaged you (her ex) out of the blue and you're responding immediately? And you're apparently invested enough that you want asktrp to analyse your conversations? Sounds like she's said "Orbit!" and clicked her fingers and there you are, just spinning right around her, though it might not seem like that to you.

Take a step back. She's only a girl.

Focus on yourself for a few days/weeks; be too busy to get back to her. Don't pretend to be busy, but be busy. Short answers. Maybe invite her along places you're going anyway; that's much better than flirting over the phone. When you flirt with her on the phone, you're feeding her validation in the form of your attention while getting nothing in return.

Don't worry about coming up with the perfect clever answer in a chat on the phone. IDGAF.

It's easy to be manipulated here without realising it. You think you're the one running things when actually you've been sat inside her frame this whole time.

Code_Bordeauxx · 2015-10-21T13:53:30+00:00

So, if I understand correctly you used to date this woman before you found TRP? Then be warned, once a girl has qualified you as a beta she won't easily let go of that image. If you all of a sudden start treating her by red pill principles, expect an explosion of shit tests. From what I see in this text, that's exactly what she's doing. ("how many times have you insulted me"/ "you used to be so sweet")

If she marked you as beta in her mind, know that she isn't contacting you for alpha fux, but for beta bucks. IOW, she wants your validation and resources. Qualifying as alpha may be very hard or even impossible at this point, depending on your history with her. Either way, there's a good chance it won't be worth the effort.

It's probably better to not invest any time or energy in women from your pre-RP days. Much easier to work from a clean slate. As for your question, you'll figure out soon enough if she'll keep contacting you now that she's become aware you won't play the beta role (anymore).

FrameWalker · 2015-10-21T14:39:34+00:00

Her: You used to be so sweet.

Beta Bait

Me: Yeah but I know how that worked out for me, I'm sweet with the right girl.

Beta confession. This girl knows you so it may not matter but with new girls hide your past. It's not good to have a beta history. A better response would be a pressure flip

You uses to be such a prude/you used to be thin/"you used to be classy

runningismycrack · 2015-10-21T14:40:05+00:00

Don't give her anything until she gives. If she messages YOU, that means she either wants to fuck you or fuck your wallet. If she wants to eat out with you, split the check, DO NOT be her wallet, and make your physical intentions clear. If you spent time apart, and now she randomly starts talking to you again, it is ONLY one of the 2 reasons above. Don't be the beta.

NeatMcGee · 2015-10-21T14:45:18+00:00

If you have to ask, you're missing the point, namely that a test is yours and yours alone to judge whether you passed or failed. It doesn't matter what I think. Here's why:

I'm presented with 7 lines of text to judge. I have no clue what happened before or after, no idea how the lines were said, etc.
I don't know you or this girl. I don't know how long you have known her, nor how well.

Izzenw · 2015-10-21T12:27:03+00:00

Make it clear that she has to work for your sweetness.

-you used to be sweet. -I can still be sweet, but I must want it. Why don't you try helping me?

Title	Did I pass or fail?
Author	Jani1157
Upvotes	10
Comments	13
Date	October 21, 2015 12:17 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/3pmha2/did_i_pass_or_fail/
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