EX text me. Help !!

aleddito · 2016-06-03T11:29:59+00:00

I think she just wrote to see if you're still interested.

You put more effort on meeting than she did. So she was right. You're still very invested and she feels full of herself.

RPShitlord · 2016-06-03T11:09:21+00:00

If she replies, ignore it. Don't reply or acknowledge any communication from her. Don't meet her. She's dead to you.

returnofthemackX · 2016-06-03T13:10:20+00:00

Block this bitch for your own good. You should not have replied. And even if you did you should not have replied what you did.

She shows you a little bone to see how you respond and you are already drooling.

fnordsnord · 2016-06-03T13:29:26+00:00

???

Here's the thing. You didn't "have" serious oneitis for this girl - you STILL DO. That's why it's stressing you. You may not admit it to yourself, or be willing to admit it here, but in the back of your mind you are hoping that she's come to her senses and wants to reconcile.

She doesn't.

I'm gonna make a few assumptions here.

1) You a good lookin' enough guy. Maybe you need to lose a few pounds or bulk up a little, and you're no DeCaprio. But you're good looking enough.

2) You have enough money. Sure, you're in Uni and money's tight, and sometimes you have to scrape to go out on a date. But you're young. You've got prospects - there's enough money now, and there's going to me more in the future.

3) You're smart. Smart enough, anyway. If you weren't smart, you wouldn't be at Uni.

I could go on, but my point is that she didn't dump you for a "good" reason. She dumped you because either she was bored, or there was a higher SMV male on the scene that she thought she could lock down. And this is a SHITTY THING TO DO.

She knows this, and it's making her feel shitty about herself. She needs your help to make herself feel better about herself and what she did. If she can convince herself that "you are doing okay" and that "you are okay with it," OR if she can bait you into losing your shit, she can tell herself that "it was for the best" or "he deserved it."

If you ask her to reconcile, that's a bonus. It helps validate how attractive she is.

So - READ MY LIPS AND SMELL MY BREATH: there is NO win in this engagement for you. You have absolutely NOTHING to gain by meeting with her. NOTHING. And plenty to lose.

I swear to you by Mystery's Stupid Fuzzy Hat, if you go to this meet you will limp away from it feeling like you've been dragged through a knothole by your dick.

Here is your way forward: Unfriend her on all social media. Delete her contact information from your phone. Block her number. Let her calls go to voicemail. Delete the voicemail unlistened to and the email unread. Take all mementos, photographs, and gifts she gave you, pack them in a box and put ‘em in your mama’s attic. Quit Facebook stalking her and quit going to places you know she likes hoping to “run into her.”

Get plenty of exercise. Hang out around positive, high energy people. Kill it with your studies. And as soon as you think you can go on a date without talking about your ex, game other women.

toolatebutnexttime · 2016-06-03T11:00:50+00:00

Why meet at all? She is simply either wanting to vent more shit she is pissed off at or wanting you to beg to get her back. Either way you lose.

nastynickdr · 2016-06-03T18:49:52+00:00

Ignore her.

She wants closure. She wants to blame you for everything that went wrong in the relationship, so she can tell everyone what a worthless man you are. And you clearly arent over her yet. Ignore her, block from social media, dont reply to her msgs or just say you are busy.

noFunnyLoginsLeft · 2016-06-03T12:46:13+00:00

Why does it stress you? I think it's true what /u/aleditto said, you're still very invested. Why?

Jakei34 · 2016-06-03T14:24:44+00:00

Think of it like this

O is coming for you like tornado to suck you up and you shall become that O.

O=Orbiter

What do you do with Tornadoes? You avoid it

verily_rp · 2016-06-03T17:58:27+00:00

I feel like i need some clarity around things without any tension or negativity over coffee or something ?

Two things that could be happening here. First, the less likely scenario: she branch swung, realized what she missed, and wants you back. The more likely scenario: you left without drama, which she craves, and she felt like she was cheated when she broke up with you. Now she's craving for closure. Somewhere on the back of her mind she knows she acted like a brat but she can't pin it on you because you handled the break up well. As a result she feels like shit and needs you to validate her.

Me: Okay fine. Me: I dont know when I will be back, probably latest the 12th. (im at uni, she is in my hometown).

facepalm You're making yourself too available man. If she wanted to see if you're still interested, you've just validated her.

Ex: Dont worry if its too much trouble for you

Translation: "Don't worry, I've changed my mind. I just realized I don't want to do this but can't say it so I'll twist it around and say it's too much trouble for you."

when/if i meet her wtf do i do. this stresses me the fuck out

Keep abundance mentality in mind. Stop caring about this bitch. You've got other options and she knows it. First thing's first, if she wants your attention, you need to set some ground rules right off the bat. Tell her if she pulls that shit again she'll never see or hear from you again.

Better yet.. tell her you'll go but don't show up. Not only that'll get her hamster spinning, it'll give you a sweet taste of revenge. Just tell her you were too busy with shit and if she complains, tell her to stop being an immature brat and that you shouldn't have answered her in the first place.

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Date	June 3, 2016 10:01 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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