Feeling shitty after nights out

SovereignWings · 2016-03-13T20:12:58+00:00

Yep I know the feel. Once I'm done for the night and on the way home it's often the thought: "another night empty handed" or something equally shitty.

I think part of this is the dichotomy of getting psyched up / mentally prepared for socializing and approaching/flirting/escalating. The extreme high of stimulation received from clubbing, dancing, drinking, everybody wanting to be on the goodfeels train, etc. Then you go home and you're alone. Again.

Just keep at it though. I almost never feel shitty he next day, it's just during the night and may be more related to being extremely tired and drunk than anything.

Devilsalwayscry · 2016-03-13T19:47:50+00:00

I relate to this. Used to get anxiety really bad when in a club environment. Why do you fear abandonment though?

I never really felt bad the day after as such. Just during the night. Work on yourself and improve your SMV endlessly and clubbing becomes a much more enjoyable experience. Love yourself.

lionofthejungle · 2016-03-14T01:42:13+00:00

It's a well known fact that excessive alcohol consumption leaves your feeling depressed afterwards.

Just don't party frequently and you'll be alright - your health and your bank account will thank you.

I'll tell you what gives you the opposite feeling - improving yourself, meditating, exercising, pursuing goals/hobbies, and just about anything that provides a slow and steady dopamine release in your brain.

dark_iknight · 2016-03-13T20:19:18+00:00

Try making notes whilst you're out or make a journal, writing your experiences down when you get home.

If you feel good on the night and only get anxious the day after, you can re-read what happened and how you felt and hopefully this will lift you up a bit and remind you how you can feel.

All_Ads_Deceive · 2016-03-14T09:09:54+00:00

Learn to be independent. You don't need anyone else

DirtyProject0r · 2016-03-13T21:35:26+00:00

Do you drink a lot and have a hangover the day after? I used to have the same problem but when I cut my drinking it was pretty much solved. For me it also helps to be active, even on a sunday. Take a walk, go cycling or go to the gym.

Icreatedbothofu · 2016-03-14T05:22:45+00:00

Remember that going out puts a lot of stress on the body. Less sleep, alcohol, nigh energy movement, dehydration, late night crappy food, these are all going to put a lot of stress on the body and increase your chances of feeling depressed/anxious the next day.

Realizing part of why something's occurring helps me deal with negative feelings which may occur.

oldredder · 2016-03-14T10:01:35+00:00

Probably nothing can fix this. This is the curse of the hard-wired beta to require a group to belong to and to be a follower. No beta has ever shaken this ever.

When you aren't able to have "don't give a fuck mode" and aren't able to be the provider of all fun and entertainment, the core of the social group, you depend on others not to abandon you.

Title	Feeling shitty after nights out
Author	brav0sierr4
Upvotes	9
Comments	18
Date	March 13, 2016 7:21 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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