Few questions on being alpha

dukechaz · 2015-07-08T02:42:49+00:00

I'm going to respond to each of your points:

Any meaningful change doesn't happen overnight. Lurk here, read the sidebar material, and engage with other members of the community here.

2&3. This is typical during a transition. Things / people that were once important, probably because your life was structured to please them in some manner, are no longer relevant to your new self. You're discovering that your priorities take precedence over others.

Bottom three:

I'd suggest to be your own man. Be interesting. Be funny. Be whatever the situation calls for. People will naturally be attracted to you so that you become of center of attention.
You've used the skill before. Think hard about what you did, how you acted etc. and start to reintroduce those behaviors, plus ones suited to you that you pick up here, into your daily interactions.
EVERYTHING is a work in process / progress. Part of being Alpha is the strong desire and motivation to continually improve yourself.

Welcome and good luck.

machimus · 2015-07-08T01:32:32+00:00

I keep falling back to beta habits

This is normal. In fact, it would be weird to change your personality overnight. Keep adjusting your behavior and one day it will feel natural, I promise.

2.I met my friends after few months, Now I can't relate to them anymore

Also normal. You're changing as a person and the same people will be harder to relate to. Tip: If they're toxic you may have to cut them out, but don't automatically condemn them, it's the only way they know. Presumably you've had good times together.

3.After redpill, I can't "Immerse" myself into movies, mainstream news, tv, porn anymore

Common newbie complaint. Don't overthink it, it's more of an art than a science.

Redpill recommends being "the man of the room" But I don't see a benefit doing it.

If you don't see a benefit, then don't do it. Then again, if you've never tried how would you know what the benefits are?

Looking back my life I was naturally manipulative during my teenage years. I cant use that skill consciously now.

That's because you used to be a creepy little bitch so it came naturally. You're going to have to relearn that one.

It seems being alpha is always "work in progress" There isn't a destination. How do you measure the transition of beta to alpha?

Along the way you'll amaze yourself with little things.
"That girl never would have talked to me before" "I've never lifted this much before" "Everyone seems to respect me now" are the kinds of things you'll catch yourself thinking. That's how you'll know.

somethingofvalue · 2015-07-08T12:01:04+00:00

Alpha and beta are good metaphors for understanding TRP concepts but don't take them too far. True alphas are in jail or in the movies. Probably most men online are betas and omegas trying to learn and reinforce faking it to get ahead in social and sexual situations. I grew up suburban middle class and while I've learned a lot from TRP and game my upbringing and early life is always there in the background.

I wonder if #1 of part two isn't about you being an introvert. I'm an introvert. I wish I wasn't because our society doesn't usually reward introverts (unless you turn your focus to becoming expert in some valued craft). You can learn to fake it and work a room, but my strong preference is not to do that when I don't have to.

As far as #3- a lot of mainstream news and entertainment sucks. You will get more discriminating. I don't bother with mainstream news now. Fortunately there's a lot of good online sources to check out. I'm selective with TV and movies and there is good stuff out there to enjoy. Same for music. We are fortunate to live in a time of the long tail where there is a lot of variety to suit outlier tastes. Also check out the great works of the past when time and attention allows.

Sepean · 2015-07-08T08:32:15+00:00

Redpill recommends being "the man of the room" But I don't see a benefit doing it. I don't like leading group when its not necessary.I never followed somebody either. Should I put more effort into it?

If you are really not following others or backing down when someone else makes suggestion, then that's ok.

That being said, there is an advantage to it. The man in the room is in the best position. If you are not that, you need to work more on isolation - get them away from the group and/or talk to them 1on1 while in the group. Also, I get good mileage from "sniping"; I'm not super charismatic and I find it difficult to command the attention of the group, but aim to take center stage regularly. Crack some fun at the AMOG. Decide where the group goes. Get everyone to listen to something interesting.

SheepKing · 2015-07-08T02:51:16+00:00

Keep faking. One day you'll get bored of faking and realize you're actually it.

redpillcynic · 2015-07-08T02:27:19+00:00

Trip some acid it will all make sense

snailpiss · 2015-07-08T03:23:25+00:00

Fuck everyone else, just lift. I'm not qualified to post here but sense reddit is circling the drain I dont care. I'm blue pill in recovery (hopefully). Make these bitches qualify themselves to you (they love that). Find your feddish and make the bitches "earn it" their will be no correctons by me on this post

homeliss · 2015-07-08T08:50:24+00:00

Just LIFT bro. Jokes, just kidding :)

Although... If you're not doing it I'm not kidding, and you'd better get your ass in the gym and start doing it.

As the other commenters said, what you are experiencing is normal, but I'll also try to break down and give you a few tips below:

I keep falling back to beta habits. I have to consciously remember to be alpha. If I let myself relax a bit, I slide into beta habits. If someone/something catch me offguard, I'll go beta. At times I forget to be alpha and catch myself doing something beta, then I get angry about my failure. This is literally tiring me out.

You are experiencing the atrophy of your redpill muscles. After years of un-use, they are fatiguing and giving out under the slightest strain. You have weak willpower and frame.

And how do you fix this, and make them stronger? Why... exercise of course!

We've all experienced this, so don't feel bad. This is the reason you see the following activities mentioned so often in these circles... because they make you stronger, stimulate your willpower, resilience and force of will by engaging your entire body and mind in an activity that improves the rest of your life too, and involves fun:

Lift heavy weights at gym
Engage in martial arts
Meditate (note: meditating should be difficult)

At least one of those first two physical activities (gym, martial arts, or any competitive physical sport) should be a CORE part of your life. I'm serious... you should make sure you do it as much as you make sure you eat or sleep.

It will make everything easier.

Redpill recommends being "the man of the room" But I don't see a benefit doing it. I don't like leading group when its not necessary.I never followed somebody either. Should I put more effort into it?

No. This is wrong.

It's nice to be "the man of the room", but thats not where you put your effort.

You put your effort into being "the man of YOUR dreams", or "the best version of yourself that you can imagine".

Your effort goes into holding your frame, and making sure that when you leave the room, you have made the best decisions you could have and pushed yourself to be the best you could be while inside.

There is only ever leading yourself.

Others may follow you you if they want, and you may choose to follow (and should choose to follow) others who are better leaders and are going where you want to go yourself.

Title	Few questions on being alpha
Author	FromBetaToAlpha
Upvotes	17
Comments	20
Date	July 8, 2015 1:16 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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