Fwb situation

quicklogaccount · 2017-06-19T19:20:27+00:00

Am I blowing this way out of proportion?

Seems like you are. The chick is too busy to get fucked. Your cock isn't worth the hassle for her, now. It might be worth it later, it might not be worth it anymore.
This is the "downside" with friendships with benefits and plates, nothing is owed. But you can totally have others though.

Should guys always be 100% initiating?

Folks here say not, but I'm growing to believe that non committed chicks are scared shit of seeking you for a fuck session. The plate I've been banging for the longest time cancels nearly anything to hang with me when I reach out to her but never once took initiative.
I guess it's an ego thing or plain fear of rejection.

Should I just leave her alone and pursue others cause it's too much work?

Yep. Add another one to the basket. If you have no interest in a LTR there's no reason for you to be with one chick only, even less "hook up a bunch per week". The more you hang with her the more unstable no strings attached sex becomes.

if I'm not building enough rapport / maintaining it on the days we don't see each other in person?

Don't send chain letters and avoid those phatic function only messages, you don't need to test whether you're still in touch with her. Reply her phatic texts though, they're some minor comfort tests.
If you feel like texting her something meaningful or some shit that reminds you of her, do.

VforVelocity · 2017-06-19T17:26:21+00:00

doesn't sound like she's that interested, girls will make time for you if they want to

soft next man

absolucion · 2017-06-19T19:21:10+00:00

People have warped sense of what a friend is today. Someone I consider a friend blows me off, I chew them out for wasting my time. If they do it enough, I end the friendship. This isn't a friend but a person you fuck. Or used to because she sounds like she's lost interest.

Hard next. Onto the next one.

Buttslam1488 · 2017-06-19T22:14:40+00:00

Ghost this stupid bitch

Eating-mushrooms · 2017-06-19T22:24:17+00:00

Can't do Friday how about Sunday- is perfectly reasonable. She was busy and offered an alternative. You're looking to far into this. She has a steady place to go for sex so she's not craving it as much as she was but that's normal

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2017-06-20T02:34:39+00:00

She's either busy or not that into you. Or she senses your growing Oneitis.

Tokloshi · 2017-06-19T17:44:24+00:00

Just spin multiple plates, send a ping out from most to least available and you'll eventually wind up soft nexting the least invested by default.

Doesn't matter if you're the only one initiating. The:

she's not offering other solutions (I.e. "Can't do Friday but how about Sunday" etc.)

aspect is more relevant in pre-plate stage. After that it's just a gauge of her investment.

Title	Fwb situation
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Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	June 19, 2017 5:09 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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