GF Adding Guys On Snapchat

LordThunderbolt · 2017-07-11T14:58:07+00:00

"Can't say that I really have any friends. And she knows this. For the first time ever the other day, I mentioned that I have a much harder time getting along with guys, and I didn't want to start meeting girls and stuff and make her jealous. "

You fucked up. You basically handed over your balls to her.

"So it very well may be that she's just the typical naive girl that thinks that these guys just want to be "friends"."

Girls are never that naive. They want to make you think they are so you can lower your guard. That's a woman's game, to feign weakness and naivete. It's you who's naive for thinking she doesn't know what she's getting into. Women are in tune socially since the age of 9. Most men never get in tune socially during their lives.

"I basically said that the only way I know I can make friends is to start talking to girls at bars, and she had no problem with it."

She has no problem with it because she knows you can't pull for shit. She doesn't see you as capable of getting girls.

You need to start lifting, hard. Also, pm me your girlfriend's snapchat

BusterVadge · 2017-07-11T17:18:18+00:00

You need to kill that fucking hamster that's spinning in your head. That's girl behavior, and not for a man.

Snapchat has evolved way past the whole "send nudes securely" idea that it was born from. EVERYONE I know has snapchat. Who cares what guy she adds? Like others have mentioned she will cheat without snapchat if she's going to cheat with it.

You are insecure, and need to deal with that. Beyond that, set your boundaries on what type of stuff she's allowed to snap. Good luck with that now because boundaries mean nothing if she doesn't respect you.

fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- · 2017-07-11T17:16:24+00:00

Recently, she's started adding a couple of guys from work to her Snapchat.

Guys from work. When she starts focusing on them, it means they're on her mind. If she hasn't fucked them yet, she will.

I honestly don't believe she's cheating or anything,

The (unwilling) cuck never believes it.

but the fact that she's adding them to a social media platform meant to send nudes and hide the evidence is alarming.

Exactly. The social media platform meant to "make things disappear."

But again, I don't think she's cheating.

If you keep lying to yourself, do you believe it?

However, what really concerns me (and I've brought this up before) is her username. Now, it's an old username that her friend made as a joke, but she's kept it all these years. And it really makes me think that she knows it puts the wrong idea in these guys' heads, but she doesn't care. It's like "say ahhhhh ;)" or something like that, referring to a blowjob. How does that conversation even go? "Oh, add me on Snapchat, it's 'say ahhhh and a winky face'".

👊🏻💦 – "Hey, guys!"

But even then, she often get unsolicited dick pics because of the username, and it's not at all appropriate.

Yup. At the end of the day, if she didn't want this type of attention, she'd have stopped. She wants it.... and is probably getting "much more" than you know.

Now, this very well may be my insecurity making me nervous. She has no problem making friends, and I do. Can't say that I really have any friends. And she knows this.

Exactly. SHE has abundance. You have nothing. She can suck a bunch of dicks, probably does, and "what are YOU gonna do about it, pussy?"

For the first time ever the other day, I mentioned that I have a much harder time getting along with guys, and I didn't want to start meeting girls and stuff and make her jealous.

Ok, this was probably the "finish him" move that you just used on yourself. Painted yourself as the complete bitch that helps her justify sucking off "manly" cocks.

I basically said that the only way I know I can make friends is to start talking to girls at bars, and she had no problem with it.

She has no problem with it because:
1) You probably won't/can't do it.
2) Even if you do, it's just a bitch (read: you) making friends with other bitches.

So it very well may be that she's just the typical naive girl that thinks that these guys just want to be "friends".

Every guy who believes his girl is naive.... is the naive one. YOU are naive. Your girl is not naive. She knows what these guys want and is allowing it to happen. Chances are, you're probably already tasting other guys' cum in her kisses.

Maybe I should just start doing what I said, and actually going to bars and places, and making those female friends.

Nah. You need to start at step 1 of TRP, because it doesn't sound like you've read (or understood) a damn thing.

nijns · 2017-07-11T18:27:23+00:00

you need to work on yourself my man. save yourself the embarrassment and hard next her.

BestSC86 · 2017-07-11T21:15:20+00:00

This has to be a troll post.....

Can't get over the idiocy of some lame beta dude thinking his girl with a blowjob username on snapchat is "naive".

Nobody is really that stupid unless he is autistic or asper or Downs...which case I apologize for calling you a idiot.

mallardcove · 2017-07-11T15:13:19+00:00

Why are you on social media to begin with?

Not worth being in an LTR with a social media addict. Especially if she is using it to talk to other dudes.

numandina · 2017-07-11T15:38:44+00:00

Snapchat is one of those apps no LTR woman who respects her partner would have on her phone in the first place, let alone be adding other guys from work on it.

She says that I'm being ridiculous and her friend just made the name as a joke, and she explains to the guys that it's a joke. But even then, she often get unsolicited dick pics because of the username, and it's not at all appropriate.

She knows what she's doing.

So it very well may be that she's just the typical naive girl that thinks that these guys just want to be "friends".

She isn't naive.

I honestly don't believe she's cheating or anything, but the fact that she's adding them to a social media platform meant to send nudes and hide the evidence is alarming. But again, I don't think she's cheating.

Cheating isn't only sending nudes or having sex with other people. A good partner doesn't put herself in a position where it just might happen, or where she gets sent accidental nudes, or generally being in a place where the possibility is this close, i.e. one message away at all times. More importantly she wouldn't do something so disrespectful that she knows is such in any serious relationships.

Can't say that I really have any friends. And she knows this.

No dread = no relationship.

Bedtimeshine · 2017-07-11T16:23:08+00:00

I'd be turned off that she is even on Snapchat. Didn't read the whole post but my advice is universal. Mirror her behavior. Her doing this gives you permission to do shit you want tbto do. . Snap other bitches, text them... whatever. Put in less effort, pull back and stop taking your relationship so seriously.

tfwno2dqtpgf · 2017-07-11T18:11:51+00:00

Better get good at prepping the bull OP because you sure are one cucky cuck

AchillesHeel77 · 2017-07-11T20:12:47+00:00

I guess I'll take one for the team/community. Send me your gf's SC username and I'll add her. If she sends me nudes, you can dump her, deal?

1Pink1Stink · 2017-07-11T14:48:08+00:00

Idk man, unless there are any other red flags, you're just gonna have to get over it.

If she wanted to cheat, she could do it without snap chat.

Spam_Bot_54 · 2017-07-11T19:26:13+00:00

Well, rather than dwelling on what I can't change, any tips for making dude friends? Not in school anymore, and literally work with all women. Don't drink or do drugs, but not opposed to meeting at bars. Just wouldn't know how to approach dudes. Gym is the worst place, because we all just want to shut the fuck up and lift.

0kool74 · 2017-07-11T19:45:23+00:00

Sorry, fellow, RPers, I know this post is a mess

Yea this post is a mess.....but it's nowhere near as big a mess as you are!!!

VengefullyY0urs · 2017-07-11T22:42:58+00:00

Reading your story and question leads me to Believe you have not read any of the sidebar or any of its material.

Get to reading, get to lifting, and the rest will figure itself out naturally.

creepyThrowawayP · 2017-07-12T01:35:47+00:00

DUDE she is preparing / already cheated, peroid.

In a few months you will come back here with a thread "how to deal with extreme anger and misogyny boiling up inside of me after my unicorn told me that she's pregnant with Tyrone".

TxnyMontana · 2017-07-12T20:33:02+00:00

Why do you care so much for your girlfriend, when you're the one who has a lot of work to do?

If you got no friends as YOU say, you got no social proof of how cool you are. Your gf knows it, that's why she is not worried about you, screaming ultimatums to her about looking for new options.

Before thinking about a (next) new girl, start developing a new yourself.

Heathcliff-- · 2017-07-11T18:22:37+00:00

You're redpilled but your gf is not. You are two different people dating with completely different views on how men and women should behave in relationships.

My girlfriend never does this kind of shit. She has few real male friends, doesn't whore herself out on instagram or snapchat, and understands what good behaviour is for a girlfriend. She knows that for me to truly trust her, she needs to physically shut herself off from anything that would even make me suspcious or uncomfortable. She respects and loves me enough that she would rather noy make me anxious over stupid shit like talkig to boys.

My gf knows all this because she is redpilled. As in, she visits the subreddit and agrees with most of the stuff written here. She understands AWALT and that it still applies to herself, and why I have a healthy level of distrust, even for a girl who's proved to be as loyal as she has. This mutual understanding of distrust and boundaries has really kept the relationship strong. She was never like this, but I slowly redpilled her over the years.

The only girls you should ever LTR are redpilled girls. Women need to have the same values as you in order to have a strong, healthy relationship. A redpilled girlfriend would not even think about behaving in the way your gf does.

You won't be able to "communicate" or "explain" your position to her and make her behave in the ways you want. That's not how it works. She'll just see you as an anxious pussy. She will behave the way she wants regardless of what you tell her. The trick is to make her want to behave in a redpilled way, make her truly see it as something she should strive for, not something she is being forced to do.

To do that, you need to redpill her, slowly, over time. If you see a future with this girl, then this is the only option. Once she starts understanding that it's not okay to be a slut and you look down on girls who behave like whores (and you won't budge from that position), she will start changing her actions to accommodate. When she truly starts being ashamed of acting like a whore, she'll dtop doing it. Atm, she thinks it's okay.

Women always change themselves to fit in better with the guys they love, that's why you see girls who adopt their boyfriends hobbies and views and suddenly drop them if they break up. Women are very malleable and they are easily influenced by their tingles.

You gotta redpill girls slowly, over time, but never by trying to explain or rationalise it to them (fast way to push her away). Instead you've got to lead by example and show her through your actions. I started by sneering at sluts and fat people, by making it clear I wasn't okay with the "you go girl" and feminist bullshit. I also started lifting and dread gamed her with other girls until she began molding herself into the girl I wanted so she could keep me. Eventually she came out with "feminism is stupid" and a year later I have a trup supporting tradcon cutie.

Your gf is too embroiled in the cultural marxist feminist narrative atm, you have emancipated yourself from it. In order to have a healthy, comfortable relationship, you need to flip her to your side.

Title	GF Adding Guys On Snapchat
Author	Spam_Bot_54
Upvotes	3
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Date	July 11, 2017 2:42 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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